nothing comes from silence

[april_chantia]

If people would have told me that life would drasticaly change when you get married I wouldn't have done so. Love is to be celebrated... treasured... enjoyed. But it is not. How can such a blessing be disguised as a curse that should be pitted against everything that a person could or want to know. Why? So many fucking questions but never an answer

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[pcfry]

Man, that is hard core. It isn't the institution of Marriage that creates lovelessness. It is the people's involved reaction to the state of being of Marriage. Or maybe people just get married for the wrong reasons. The adjustment is difficult, even if you were with the person a while beforehand or even lived with them beforehand.

I've been married 14+ years. There have been some serious trials, but it is our resolve to settle those problems that makes the marriage worth keeping. Communication is the ONLY answer in relationships. The only one. Only through communication, and honest at that, can you first define a common language, then be able to talk about where the difficulty lies. Occationsionally that talk leads to the realization that you aren't, or can't, meant to stay together. Sometimes, it leads to redefining the parameters of the relationship. And sometimes, you discover that you both were actually talking about the same thing trying to make the same point.

:)

[april_chantia]

thank you