Why Marriage?

[aquariel]

So, a couple of people replied to my earlier post about potentially getting married at AnimeBoston saying that they thought that the 1913 law (originally meant to prevent biracial marriage, now being used to prevent same-sex marriage) preventing out of state weddings for people from states who don't support their weddings is still in effect and

Comments

[enginoshouzoku]

I honestly think you should go for whatever you wish, no matter what others say. This debate over whether "God hates fags" or "it's wrong just because it is" is getting ridiculous.

If it's any form of help, two friends of mine who have been together for awhile are getting married next September in Hawaii; even if it's just the ceremony and not legal, they want to get that far. I hope everyone in this country will come to see were all the same, no matter the sexual preferences.

[hiddenglitter]

I SOO missed your last post I guess... LOL Silly me!! XD

Anyways... I have to say, there is so much thought and emotion behind this post that I had tears in my eyes. And, well... I feel ashamed for the shit (excuse me...) that people continue to spout against same-sex marriages. Coming from a person with religious background (well, kinda) and religious/spiritual beliefs I see NO PROBLEM with same-sex marriages and in NO WAY does it lessen a marriage of a heterosexual marriage... so SCREW CIVIL UNIONS!!! Seriously... I can't figure out what others have against same-sex marriages... why can't it be a marriage PERIOD!!

With all my republican upbringing, I am awfully liberal! lol XP

And I agree... have the marriage where you want it... in your church! That has a special meaning to you both and would be more meaningful in the long run right? You have the date set, so start plannin' girl!

And you have every right to get a marriage license... it is more than a piece of paper.

-Kirst

[ex_epinoia286]

Agreed on all counts. And to put it in extraordinarily simplistic terms: You want to be married. You should have to provide no logical reasoning to be supported in your decision because it is, simply, what you want to do. So what if it seems superfluous to some people? You want it, and it's your life.

That isn't to say I didn't enjoy reading all of this-- how very well thought-out! I'm a very big fan of marriage and I enjoyed reading this piece. :) I'm putting it in my LJ memories.

[hiddenglitter]

"You should have to provide no logical reasoning to be supported in your decision because it is, simply, what you want to do."

EXACTLY! I soooo agree!

They should not have to EXPLAIN why they want to marry, besides... they want to be married to one another... PERIOD!

-Kirst

[the_calzone]

Especially if you're heterosexual you can even say "WE'RE DRUNK, DUDE!" and still get hitched x_x I hate straight weddings.

[setsuna__meioh]

Good luck with everything. It's tough to keep a relationship going in this world, but you two have survived and I feel it should be recognized. I really don't know where I fall on the subject of same-sex marriage (torn between how I was raised and how I see things), but I am willing to support you and Ruka because I believe in you two. Again, good luck with all of this! You've worked through tough things before, you two can do it again ^_^

[the_calzone]

I shouldn't have read this. It just gets me angry that there's laws against it, that people haven't recognized yet. And I see a large similarity between the treatment of blacks 60 years ago vs the treatment of gay/lesbians now. In 60 years everyone will look at one another and say, "Why were we so stupid?"

I wish I could say something good to cheer you up and give you another round of hope. Unfortuntely you know too much. I can say that if I had a country that you guys would be head of family affairs and be able to not only get married but renew your vows every day, if you wanted. In fact, you may be the only people I let marry. Helping my mom set up weddings at her hotel gets me depressed and kinda jealous. Normally the bride is a beautifull.....18 or 19 yearold. And while yes, I adore my boyfriend and we've been together probably longer than that couple getting married, I can't help but think of myself too young and too naive, what makes her differnt? So maybe that means I'm for gay marriage and less for heterosexual marriage x_X

[hiddenglitter]

"large similarity between the treatment of blacks 60 years ago vs the treatment of gay/lesbians now"

Good point and very true. It is sad to see those similarities... I thought that we (as a nation and as human beings) would learn to accept and get on with their own lives rather than controlling those who look at life differently or choose differently.

-Kirst

[the_calzone]

Seriously x_x;;; You realize that like when our parents were in school they were like, "BLACKS BAD! They're at the other school! Throw rocks at them!" and everyone agreed. And flash forward to today where I can't imagine or believe that anyone would think that. What would high school have been like without my co-editor Crystal?! O_o;;; What the fuck? Then here we are and people are teaching us a marriage is between man and woman and all that jazz.

What we need is stronger marriage like...rules for heterosexuals (so we can stop abusing them X_x) and legalize gay marriage. Then everyone is on the same playing field.

And yeah, I have no idea what the rules for heterosexuals should be. Probably that they should have a real ceremony and show proof of planning it or something. I'm just trying to think of ways to prevent drunken marriages in Las Vegas without out-lawing Vegas itself.

[navi]

Probably that they should have a real ceremony and show proof of planning it or something.

The only problem with that is not everybody who wants to get married wants to have a ceremony. Simply heading down to the courthouse isn't reserved for shotgun weddings or people who are drunk. As someone who is currently planning a wedding, I can say that michiru_kou is dead on about how expensive weddings are and there are times when I'd rather just throw it all to the wind and head to the courthouse instead.