Time for an update

[aquila0212]

"I've put this off for far too long." Not intentionally, mind, it's just that there are SO many things going on right now, that keeping up with LJ and fandom and so on has just gotten really hard for me. Especially since three or more days a week, I have no access to a computer while I'm in Brooklyn. So for those of you who've kindly been

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[arabia764]

You truly do have your hands full. Hang in there, I do hope things get easier.

[aquila0212]

Thank you!

[lijahlover]

*hugs you close*

[caecus_parvulus]

Good to hear she made it out of surgery, and that she's healing up alright, physically at least. Being in confined to a hospital is never fun, and I think she'll do better once she's out

[aquila0212]

My mother is not, in her words, "a joiner", but I suspect that once she gets there, that will change in a few months. We just have to get to that point, and I have to give daily pep talks as it is. But one day at a time, right?

I won October 28, which was a Saturday. It ended up being a really expensive trip because the airfare was over $800. You don't know how many times I said, "No, I'm not going," only to have everyone chime in that it was a chance of a lifetime, you have to go, etc etc. I felt like I was going for everyone (but only I paid for it!). So in the end, I bit the bullet, knowing I'd never have a chance like that again. I suspect that I might have "won" because of the Pimp, because other mods from groups were there that night. Especially since I never ever win anything!

[caecus_parvulus]

Right, one day at a time. There's little use in worrying about something that may never happen, just prepare for what you can and things will happen as they do. Of course, me being a worrier myself, it's easier said than done.

Well, either way, glad to see the recognize awesome when they see it! I wanted to go to Berlin for the MiG tour, but tickets were crazy expensive, and then there was worrying about hotels, and money for food, and this, and that, which working only for tips, just wasn't possible. I'll just save up for next tour. (So, was there the giant dick-ah, and Frau Schneider routine? Because the latter would be great fun to watch up close, the former, not so much)

[aquila0212]

When the tix for the Berlin shows went on sale, there was no way I could've gone. I went in 2009 and it was the trip of a lifetime, but everything was so uncertain with my mother, not to mention that I didn't have a job. I entered the rehearsal tix contest for a lark, thinking I probably wouldn't be able to go even if I won. Luckily, the timing ended up being OK -- it was in between when my mother came out of rehab from the first operation and the second one. We had someone in the house to care for her, so I did it

[itstonedme]

Your mom is one tough bird to fight off a superbug after a major surgery at her age. I have much faith that her spirit will catch up with her body in recovering. I have heard that depression post-surgery is not an unusual thing. And the move into assisted living will be a blessing for you both. There will be so many people that plug into making her feel safe and taken care of, allowing her all the privacy she wants but still making sure she's attended to. I think you'll find a wonderful new level in your relationship because you'll be so much more relaxed.

And my fingers are crossed for you on the job front. You're more than overdue. *hugs*

[aquila0212]

Thanks for the words of encouragement, sweetheart ♥

[glitterburn]

I really hope your mum is doing better and I hope she will enjoy the care home. My dad didn't want to go into a home but sometimes it's the best and only decision and it is really hard. My dad enjoyed the home though so I hope your mum will settle there too.

The R+ rehearsal gig sounds awesome! I'm glad you had such a special experience :)

[aquila0212]

This sort of arrangement is a little less "nursing home-y", which she really doesn't need. She's all there and then some, mentally -- well, usually ;) Thanks, sweetie :)