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Jan 11, 2009 20:35

is it weird or unreasonable for me to be jealous of the porn my boyfriend looks at?

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paradoxymoron January 12 2009, 07:36:59 UTC
That depends. Is he jealous of the porn that you look at?

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ar13l January 14 2009, 00:26:14 UTC
i dont look at porn.. its horribly unappealing to me.
it makes sex seem gross and not intimate at all.

he does not, however, know to the extent of which i have been photographed. (i.e he dont know botu nudes)

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paradoxymoron January 14 2009, 08:26:23 UTC
Oh, well, then. I guess that takes care of that.

....There are nudes? Of you? I just went to my happy place.
piiiiics! :DDDDD

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smokyscott January 12 2009, 11:26:59 UTC
yeah it's unreasonable. it's just a fantasy.

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ar13l January 14 2009, 00:23:12 UTC
yeah i know..,.,.,... but it makes me feel inadequate, as if i am unfulfilling to him.. and some of it's downright dirty, but he never seems to want to do these things with me :\

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smokyscott January 14 2009, 02:38:30 UTC
i was going to say, you've posed totally naked before, and i'm sure guys have masturbated to those photos, isn't that okay?

MOST porn is gross. i don't like professional porn at all, it's not hot knowing that there's all these camera men and a director standing around, and that they're doing it because they're getting paid. i get off on seeing normal people getting naked because they want to.

what does he look at that he doesn't want to do with you?

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ar13l January 22 2009, 23:01:27 UTC
its not that he watches anything out of the ordinary, no animals or bondage involved.. its actually pretty average, run of the mill stuff.. lots of "hot teen girl action" so this is what im up against.. there are some very basic things that he doesnt seem very interested in, like doggy style..kinda had to coax him into that..i mean he seemd to like it but still doesnt do it unless i initiate it.. and he hasnt even attempted to go down on me (i havent said anything about it, though ( ... )

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stalkthehawk January 12 2009, 18:46:59 UTC
I'm not sure but if it makes you feel better I've been wondering the same thing.

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ar13l January 14 2009, 00:21:16 UTC
hmm seems we have a battle of the sexes going on, here. girls agree, boys do not.

it just makes me feel like im not enough for him, or that im not giving him what he needs ya know?

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stalkthehawk January 24 2009, 03:57:34 UTC
Those are exactly the same things I was thinking.

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ar13l January 26 2009, 22:32:41 UTC
have u talked to him about it at all?
i havent, i dont really know how to bring it up :\

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autumnsshadow January 21 2009, 18:39:25 UTC
It's not unreasonable, but it indicates something underlying, like, as you've stated in comments, a feeling of inadequacy. What is it that he gets out of it? And plucking from the comments: Do you *want* him to want to do those things with you?

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ar13l January 22 2009, 22:43:31 UTC
"What is it that he gets out of it?" - well, that's what i wanna know.
and what i *want* him to do is experiment with the things that get him off with ME, vs watching someone else do it when he's alone..

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autumnsshadow January 23 2009, 19:53:57 UTC
Have you asked him about it and told him that you want to experiment?

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