again, with the mindset stuff

[aracknee]

I had an epiphany in my therapist's office last night. I'm always glad when I have those, since it justifies the expense of being there

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[kwintt]

It's true. You won't have the same amount of time to do art, be alone, etc. The rewards of motherhood are many but it does take enormous amounts of time away from those other activities as well as alone time with your mate. You are adding an identity, and it will eclipse the others to some extent. It has to. You can have it all, but not all at once. So although you can still be an artist, you might be 45% mom, 45% professional woman and 10% artist/intellectual. Be sure you will be comfortable with that balance, maybe for quite some time, before you make the decision to be a parent. I am only now getting back into drawing and painting after a 20 year hiatus. The reason? Two wonderful young adults, the youngest now a sophomore in college. As much as they need you during childhood, they need you just as much as they grow up, only in different ways. They don't need their diapers changed and rides to school, but they need to talk about friends, and to be there at all their games or concerts or school plays, and discuss big questions, and

[rutemple]

I could see you two as parents.