Well you know how I am about parents and kids (i.e. you had 'em, you watch 'em). If I actually had kids, I don't think I'd leave them at a b-day party unsupervised unless it was cleared ahead as This Is Perfectly Okay.
And you know I agree! And with one of them - it was at my insistance because he couldn't have come otherwise. One. But the rest? It was just assumed to be ok. And 9 boys are really loud. Really REALLY loud.
Oh - and I realized last night - you didn't send the Gorey card - you sent the lovely sleigh card - so my comment must have confused you. I opened 5 cards from one collection of mail and mixed up yours and Michael's - which is funny, if you think about it. ;)
Actually, I thought maybe the Gorey card we'd sent about 5 years ago made its way through a wormhole in time and arrived at the exact moment that this year's card should have done. :-D
Wolves reach maturity after about a year. Then they're expected to fend for themselves. Children are pretty much the same way. After a year, if they don't have a job, can't fend for themselves, and need parental supervision, kick 'em out. They'll figure it out eventually...
I have actually taken the girls to parties where the parent asked me to leave. I was not comfortable with that and thought it was just wierd until I spoke to the moms and they have come to expect it.
I think esp in our society today, people think they might be in the way or stepping on toes if they attend? Maybe next time make it clear that parents are also welcome to stay? (Maybe they were afraid they'd have to pay for something if they did, since it's at a "place" rather than a house?)
I did a search and there were a bunch of ppl cranky that parents were staying at the parties, costing extra money, and "being in the way." So, I don't htink it's a standard anymore.
There was also suggested wording for encouraging parents to attend: "We would be honored if you both attended ______________ birthday party."
"We can't wait to see you both!"
"Parents are welcome to attend." or "Parents are encouraged to stay."
"Separate adult refreshments provided." or "Adult refreshments provided."
Sorry if your question was rhetorical!!!!
P.S. - If you ever want me to help, I'd be happy to. I know I don't spend much time with your kids, but I would be happy to bounce-watch. I think I'd be good at that ;)
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Oh - and I realized last night - you didn't send the Gorey card - you sent the lovely sleigh card - so my comment must have confused you. I opened 5 cards from one collection of mail and mixed up yours and Michael's - which is funny, if you think about it. ;)
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Hey, it worked for me! Yay, benign negligence!
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I did a search and there were a bunch of ppl cranky that parents were staying at the parties, costing extra money, and "being in the way." So, I don't htink it's a standard anymore.
There was also suggested wording for encouraging parents to attend:
"We would be honored if you both attended ______________ birthday party."
"We can't wait to see you both!"
"Parents are welcome to attend." or "Parents are encouraged to stay."
"Separate adult refreshments provided." or "Adult refreshments provided."
Sorry if your question was rhetorical!!!!
P.S. - If you ever want me to help, I'd be happy to. I know I don't spend much time with your kids, but I would be happy to bounce-watch. I think I'd be good at that ;)
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