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[archangelwells]

 shadesong posted something that I feel very strongly connected to.  This post, to be exact. She does not want you taking pictures of her.

I do not want pictures taken of me. EVER. I also do not want to take pictures of you, EVER. I want pictures to not exist in my paradigm. Except maybe of knitting. But really, if it meant cameras were not a part of my world

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[l33tminion]

I'm probably somewhat irritable about this topic, particularly as relates to 'Song. (She made a post in the past that worded the sentiment more like "don't take pictures of me or I'll flip out and smash your camera", threats of violence for inadvertent social transgressions really bother me a lot, and I got in a pointless comment-thread scuffle with one of her friends as a result.)

I do try to avoid taking pictures of people who don't want pictures taken of them. I also try to be sensitive about other people's online-presence preferences. I try not to post about things related to other people that they don't want posted, and I will take stuff down on request.

[ratatosk]

don't take pictures of me or I'll flip out and smash your camera

The trouble with that sort of thing is that you never have a guarantee it's particularized to a single, predictable circumstance -- many people will just treat that person like they will randomly explode over anything at any moment.

(disclaimer: I don't know Shadesong beyond having her pointed out to me across the room at social events, so I'm not making any claims about her specifically, just about people in general.)

[archangelwells]

As someone who has been dealing this for... what feels like ever, and having had situations where people absolutely don't respect my desire not to be in pictures, and where people argue with me about it or ignore my request in a "rubbing it in" way....

I can understand that reaction. And may have had it, as a result of the aforementioned situations. It's something that *really* upsets me, seems to *really* upset Song, and that people often ignore unless you find a way to get across how important it is. Such as by indicating that you'll flip out and smash the camera.

I'm not looking to start an argument. But I might be trying to explain why that feels like a valid response to me, even if it is over the top.

[l33tminion]

That sentiment just seems a bit like "if I don't disregard your triggers you'll never take my triggers seriously".

Ugh, I shouldn't be bringing up old wounds anyways. That's clearly not your sentiment in this post, nor Song's sentiment in the post you actually linked to.

[ratatosk]

Pictures of humans are boring, anyway. Animals make much better models, and you don't have to worry about getting their consent. :P

[katdakiwi]

I hope that I've never put you in that situation, and if I had pushed the envelope on it - I do apologise.

[archangelwells]

You didn't! ~hugs the kiwi~ I miss you. I'm glad you still have pictures of our family!