stolen from goudagirl

[archgirl06]

I want everyone who reads this to ask me three questions, no more no less. Ask me anything you want (though I reserve the right to not answer, or to answer evasively). Then I want you to go to your journal, copy and paste this allowing your friends (including me) to ask you anything.

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[funnel101]

1. Is Creationism an issue in Judaism? I honestly don't know, and I've been wondering. What do you believe about it?

2. And I'm not asking this to be rude, but simply because I want to understand. Why is it so important to you to date a man with the same faith?

3. How's your throat doing? Are you feeling any better physically?

[archgirl06]

1. Honestly? I don't know and I also don't know how I feel about it. It's hard to take your entire public school education and say 'oh yup, that's not true cause the Torah says so!'.

2. I don't think the question is rude in the first place! The issue here is marriage. I don't want to fall in love with someone and then not be able to marry them. In short, you can't marry a non-jew within the Orthodox sect, and many Conservative Rabbis will also not perform intermarriages. You can't get a ketubah (literally, a legal document saying what you have to provide your spouse, etc) in an intermarriage. In the end, if you (meaning I) want to be a part of a religious community, I have to marry a Jew (and I don't really mind and was planning on it anyway before I became more religious).

3. My throat is doing much better! I almost have my voice back. =)

[eitanhalevy]

Creationism is certainly made into an issue by many, but I think the two can be pretty easily reconciled if one puts just a little intellectual effort into it.

[archgirl06]

I'd love to hear your throughts on it.

[archgirl06]

1. Some of the sex issues. When I told Mel last night that I was working on becomming religious, she said, 'well isn't that sexist?!'... and I know that's a common reaction and it can appear that way, and some people push it a lot. And I agree, it is silly that a woman's voice can turn on a man and that it's the women's responsibility to make sure a dumb man doesn't get turned on, but a man's voice can not turn on a woman (which is BS -- ahhh a low bass voice... *swoon*). Since I'm a vocalist, the whole kol isha thing bothers me a lot, but I hear there are very popular women's choruses etc in Orthodox circles. I guess there's a way of getting around every rule.

2. Good question. lol I have no clue. At least my stubborness has paid off in some respects. =p

3. arch = architecture, girl = girl. Back when I was still an architecture major. =)

[eitanhalevy]

There is reverence for women in a LOT of ways. And there are also a number of mitzvoth which are traditionally done only by women, such as lighting shabbat candles, tithing challah, etc., and they are also charged with the early education of children which will be largely responsible for who they grow up to be! In many haredi hoseholds, the woman holds the power of the purse and is responsible for the family's finances. Another example, the sexual obligation in a marriage is an obligation of a man to please his wife, not the other way around. I think many of the issues of 'inequality' within Judaism rest on a modern assumption that traditionally female roles are unimportant, whereas in Judaism the home is the MOST important place. Of course, Judaism is not about equality, and it is quite unequal in many ways, I just don't think it's in a 'better/worse' kind of way, but rather a 'recognition of sex differences in reality' way.

[comitto]

1. what is your favorite thing about yourself?
2. what are your thoughts on abortion?
3. when you feel hideously attractive what makes you feel better? (i could use some advice :()

[archgirl06]

1. Physically or otherwise? Personality wise, it's that I know I'm a good friend, reliable and I have a good heart. =) Physically, well, duh, my hair of course. =p

2. Pro-choice. I think after the 2nd trimester it shouldn't be done, but in general, first trimester abortions I'm ok with. Especially after instances of rape. If I had gotten pregnant after being raped, there is no way I would have been able to give birth and well, stay sane after.

3. Awww. =/ Um, I try to wear things that make me happy. And retail therapy never hurt anyone. And flirting. Lots of flirting. I have a few male friends that I keep around for that task (ok, more then that, but I know if I ever need a good flirting partner, they are around to boost my self esteem a bit).

[eitanhalevy]

On the abortion stuff, have you studied the halachah on that issue? Your answer follows a lot of the principles they work with (with a different timetable, more specific, etc., but very similar ideas).

[archgirl06]

Yes, I've looked into it. I'm not sure "studied" would be the correct terminology though. Just read some articles. =)

[eitanhalevy]

1. What experience/person/idea/etc. led you to make teshuvah? (if there's a long answer and a short, the short will do fine here)

2. I second Goudagirl's question about your LJ moniker. ???

3. Didn't you have a 'frum-date' a while back? How did that go? (or maybe I just missed the post, but in any case...)

I'm not going to copy the meme to my journal, cuz I don't do that as a rule. But you or anyone else reading this are free to ask me anything! (though I may or may not respond)

[archgirl06]

1. The very short answer is: it feels right and it makes me happy. The medium long answer is I realized just how much I missed Judaism when I (stupidly) changed myself for someone I was dating. Then after the relationship ended, I started going to events at Hillel, then the cantor thing came, and then I realized that if I was going to be a practicing Jew, I could not very well pick and chose the rules I followed. So, there ya go. =)

2. arch = architecture, girl = girl, 06 = the year I was going to get my BARCH (bachelor of architecture) ... this was all before I switched my major to Integrative Arts =)

3. I did! And it was quite lovely. We went to the Baltimore aquarium. However, he currently lives in Jerusalem (although is in the states for awhile for the summer -- we're planning on another date before he goes back) so I shouldn't get my hopes up.

[archgirl06]

hahaha i ♥ you.
And you win at the internet... but you're soooo racist. =p