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Apr 07, 2005 17:14

So you know that guy I thought was so awesome? Turns out he is not so awesome. I don't know exactly what to think about it right now, but I found some stuff out (not through gossip) and im angry and annoyed by it. I guess its all for the best anyway, my thesis is due in 4 weeks and I really can't afford for something to be taking my time away from ( Read more... )

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stevivor April 7 2005, 19:14:25 UTC

I hate when that happens! *hugs to hope you're okay*

architectisme April 7 2005, 22:47:18 UTC

Thanks! I am fine though, i have had much worse happen haha. Perhaps I should be giving you hugs though. Hope your'e doing ok!

drthe19 April 8 2005, 09:46:56 UTC

no. i'm not sure i know who you are talking about.

architectisme April 8 2005, 14:19:07 UTC

i talk about him in the post i wrote a few days ago, my longer one that you said hello again in :p

trashygoose April 8 2005, 21:08:05 UTC

awww my silly american.....*hugz*... hope everthing goes well with your assessment hey... and boys are just silly... you dont need them... they are just too silly... when you put a silly american with a silly boy, only silly situations come out, and that would just be very silly if that was to happen...
i miss my silly american... when is he coming back :(

architectisme April 9 2005, 19:28:19 UTC

haha aww thanks. i am not sure when i am coming back. i am hoping by the end of the year after i graduate.

lilkidman April 10 2005, 04:15:31 UTC

i knew it.

architectisme April 10 2005, 14:36:51 UTC

you knew what?

lilkidman April 11 2005, 00:37:27 UTC

about him.
just an impression i got.

allamericanjock April 24 2005, 19:39:50 UTC

What kind of "stuff" did you find out? (Just curious... I understand if you don't want to post details.) I mean, there's a difference between hearing that he's a ho from some faggot in a bar, and coming across his arrest record on www.lasd.org. (And I believe it's not the former, since you said it wasn't gossip.)

I'm always torn on issues like that in my life. On the one hand, I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt, and let me opinon of them form first-hand. On the other hand, I know it's stupid to blind myself to facts that I might find out from other sources, when they really tell me something about who the person is.

architectisme April 28 2005, 04:21:21 UTC

haha yeah i wont talk about it here, but it was just some stuff that in my opinion seemed strange, and shall we say dishonest. And as far as the source goes, it was all here on his livejournal. :p

allamericanjock April 28 2005, 11:42:40 UTC

Well... (and I have to put in a big disclaimer, since I really know nothing about this particular situation or what you heard, etc etc)... whenever I "hear something" about another person, I try to ask myself two questions:

Why is the person telling me this? (That is: Are they motivated only by a concern for me? How do they know the person they are talking about? How does their relationship with that person bias them? Could they be motivated to by jealousy? Hurt? Revenge? Do they have any history with me? How does their relationshp with me bias them? Could they be motivated by jealousy? Competition? ....)
What is the person's perspective? (That is: Is it possible they are mis-informed? Are they talking about their own experiences, or another person's? If they are talking about another person's experiences, is it possible that their source was biased or mis-informed? If they are talking about their own experiences, could they be mis-understanding or mis-interpreting someone's motivations or actions? Do they have all the ( ... )