Weird week just got weirder...

[aruarian_dancer]

I thought yesterday was a weird day.  I was feeling depleted energy-wise and was wondering if my lungs were acting up (I have asthma.).  This morning, I had to get up earlier than usual, so naturally I'm feeling sleepy about now and oddly enough, I still didn't feel recharged.  I checked one of my multiple e-mail inboxes and found out just what it

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[aruarian_dancer]

I hope he figures things out, too. Thanks.

[mysocalledhell]

*rest of comment deleted for being coldhearted and unsympathetic and not all that nice*

I am sorry that your family is suffering this hardship.

[catssyclaws]

That's terrible. I hope the counceling helps him. There's just all kinds of things that could be going on in his head. I hope he can find a way to talk about them. It's one of the ways he can get better.

[aruarian_dancer]

I didn't hear how the sessions were going yet. They say things are turning around, but then again, they didn't expect that he'd do this in the first place, so, really how well did they know him...?

Yeah, some people find it difficult to talk, period. Counseling works for some... or for a while.... All I know is that change can only come from within him. I hope he can start seeing things differently.

[catssyclaws]

Yeah people would be surprised just how little they know about someone else. Especially a person who isn't very apt to talk about themselves or their problems... not even with family members. But likewise, people could have seen signs and were just in denial themselves about it.

Yeah he'll only be able to change if he wants to. I mean yeah it helps to have incentives like family and friends backing you, but in the end you have to want to do it for yourself.

[lilou_black]

People don't always show what they feel deep inside... Maybe your nephew had problems his family didn't know... That's how it can work too.

You said Nobody's love will ever going to be enough if he doesn't love himself enough to turn things around. That's difficult. Many people told me that to explain a lot of things (for exemple, I often hear you'll never find a boyfriend/husband if you don't love yourself a little more), but if you feel bad about yourself, it's really hard to get over it. I've lived with that sort of things for fifteen years.

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[aruarian_dancer]

Yeah, he's on his own with his wife, so my sister-in-law can't possibly know everything that goes on. And if he's withdrawn to begin with...

I've been there with the low self-esteem and not feeling good about myself. I had to fight and work hard to find a solution for myself. True change can only come from within. No amount of love from others really make a lasting impact because the person would always feel undeserving of it deep down if they really don't learn to love him/herself first and stop seeking outside of themselves for validation. In short, other people (including one's significant other) don't (and shouldn't) define who we are and our self-worth. And you're right, it's very very difficult to deal with the feelings of worthlessness and trying to turn things around. There's no easy solution. :(