In writing asexual characters....I need some help
Ok, so I am writing a few stories with asexual characters as the main characters but I have some doubts about some things,since I am mostly basing them on my personal experiences, wants and needs, but I want to have more opinions and don't want to accidentally make people mad if it can be avoidable.
Character one is probably the oldest asexual character I've created, but I'm still working out some things about her;
The basics:
---In her early teens, (I have not decided if she actually had sex or not yet), but the boy she liked reacted badly to her reaction to sex and that left scars. That maybe why she's not too keen on the whole intimacy. (I'm trying to leave that part of the story vague, on purpose.)
---She's married to someone that would very much like to have sex with her, but respects her decision not to. The reason why she married in the first place was because she didn't want to deal with the social stigma of being an unmarried woman who also never dated, but also because she was in love with the guy (but she had not realized her feelings for him until much later).
---She doesn't like touching, but as time passed by, she became somewhat more comfortable with cuddling, hugging, but for the most part she is very awkward when it comes to intimacy.
--- Since she is not willing to have sex with her husband, she has told him that if the need gets to be too much, he can look for sex elsewhere.
Character 2:
---He was engaged to a girl for most of his life, but he was never really interested in her. Actually, in his 21 years of life he had not really been romantically or physically interested in anyone.
--- He had sex with his fiance, only once, mainly because he wanted to shut her up, but also because he felt like maybe he's be interested once he did it.
--- He was not interested, and actually felt sick after the fact (this is just how I think I'll feel if I ever had sex.)
--- He's finally fallen in love, with a guy, and they had sex, and even though his reaction was not one of sickness, he wasn't really into the act. It could not end soon enough in his opinion.
---My character had sex the second time because he wanted to, and because he was a little drunk, but he was bored with the act
--- He does like kissing and cuddling though. But no deep tongue kissing, all very pg.
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Like I said, any pointers on how my characters could maybe seem more realistic (of course I don't want to change them, at least not completely because they are pretty much ingrained in my head, but if there are some things about their overall attitudes that might be a bit unfounded or such, I want to know.) Especially my character who did/will have sex.
In my mind I have already decided that he will only have sex twice in the course of the story, once with his ex-fiance, which was his first time, and the other with his boyfriend, but even so, since my experience with actual sexual intercourse is non-existent, I am not sure I am being realistic in his reactions?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
Character one is probably the oldest asexual character I've created, but I'm still working out some things about her;
The basics:
---In her early teens, (I have not decided if she actually had sex or not yet), but the boy she liked reacted badly to her reaction to sex and that left scars. That maybe why she's not too keen on the whole intimacy. (I'm trying to leave that part of the story vague, on purpose.)
---She's married to someone that would very much like to have sex with her, but respects her decision not to. The reason why she married in the first place was because she didn't want to deal with the social stigma of being an unmarried woman who also never dated, but also because she was in love with the guy (but she had not realized her feelings for him until much later).
---She doesn't like touching, but as time passed by, she became somewhat more comfortable with cuddling, hugging, but for the most part she is very awkward when it comes to intimacy.
--- Since she is not willing to have sex with her husband, she has told him that if the need gets to be too much, he can look for sex elsewhere.
Character 2:
---He was engaged to a girl for most of his life, but he was never really interested in her. Actually, in his 21 years of life he had not really been romantically or physically interested in anyone.
--- He had sex with his fiance, only once, mainly because he wanted to shut her up, but also because he felt like maybe he's be interested once he did it.
--- He was not interested, and actually felt sick after the fact (this is just how I think I'll feel if I ever had sex.)
--- He's finally fallen in love, with a guy, and they had sex, and even though his reaction was not one of sickness, he wasn't really into the act. It could not end soon enough in his opinion.
---My character had sex the second time because he wanted to, and because he was a little drunk, but he was bored with the act
--- He does like kissing and cuddling though. But no deep tongue kissing, all very pg.
.
Like I said, any pointers on how my characters could maybe seem more realistic (of course I don't want to change them, at least not completely because they are pretty much ingrained in my head, but if there are some things about their overall attitudes that might be a bit unfounded or such, I want to know.) Especially my character who did/will have sex.
In my mind I have already decided that he will only have sex twice in the course of the story, once with his ex-fiance, which was his first time, and the other with his boyfriend, but even so, since my experience with actual sexual intercourse is non-existent, I am not sure I am being realistic in his reactions?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks