Post I found

[zsomeone]

This is a really great post, I just wanted to share it http://grasexuality.wordpress.com/2012/03/28/how-to-have-sex-with-an-asexual-person/
Lots of other good posts on that site too if you want to read around.

Comments

[whitetail]

Trying to get a professed asexual to be sexual seems to me akin to trying to "cure" homosexuality. It shouldn't be done.

[shallanelprin]

Having sex doesn't make one any less asexual. Not all asexual people are repulsed by it and some do have sex with their partners. Sexual attraction =/= sexual behavior. Some sexual people are celibate, some asexual people have sex.

The person who wrote the article isn't trying to "cure" anyone, just giving advice for having sex with an asexual partner. Includes stuff about consent, points out that having sex isn't going to make the person any less asexual, etc.

[whitetail]

I've been an asexual for 40 years, and I've always understood the term to mean "not sexual" or "no sex." When did asexual start meaning someone who has sex?

[postingwhore]

ty for sharing the post! It's really well-written.