Aromantic community

[ryntha_doghare]

Hi all,

I couldn't seem to find a community anywhere on LJ specifically geared towards the discussion of being aromantic. So I made one: aromanticnation Both sexual aromantics (like myself) and asexual aromantics are welcome, so please do sign up if it interests you. (: At the moment it's a WIP but I hope it gains some activity soon.

Comments

[qaface]

There was once an asexual aromantic community a few years ago but I don't know what happened. Thank you for creating this community. I've just joined :)

[ryntha_doghare]

I have heard of it but I believe the journal got deleted and purged, for whatever reason...

[cheriola]

[Oh, for crying out loud...]

Good idea. I'm asexual aromantic, but I've been curious on the sexual POV on aromanticism ever since reading this sadly discontinued blog [which I can't link because then my post gets labeled as spam]

I don't know, it just sounds like a very healthy and honest approach to relationships to me, without all the emotional drama and the iffyness related to gender equality and rape culture created by the scripts society provides for what is normally considered "romance".

Mind if I start a thread? I've got a writing/representation related question for which I would like some input from a sexual aromantic.

[ryntha_doghare]

Go for it! I'd be happy to offer my opinion.

I'm also curious that you see rape culture as being centred in romance rather than in sexuality. Care to explain more? (Or, in the community itself, even? xD)

[cheriola]

I didn't say "centered", but there are some aspects of rape culture that are legitimised especially in fiction as 'romantic', and thus are being normalised in real life. Such as planting a kiss on someone you're infatuated with without asking first if they want to be kissed. Because being in love means you're entitled to their body or at least a pardon afterwards, apparently. ("All's fair in love and war.") Or the idea that a woman is obligated to reward romantic gestures with sex or otherwise she's a bitch (a concept I see thrown around publically all the time, especially on Valentine's Day). Or just various media depictions of 'seduction' as part of supposedly grand romance storylines that often read more like coersion from my asexual perspective. (If your object of desire wanted to have sex with you, they wouldn't need convincing. This isn't the 1950s when women weren't allowed to admit to their desires.) Or the widespread opinion that thinking you have an exclusive ownership of and right to your partner's sexuality, time and even

[love_82]

Thanks for making the community. :) I had checked to see if there was one but I did not see any. After doing research this past year I have come to identify, or really figure out that I am an aromantic asexual. So it is nice to have a place to go to talk about it and read other's POVs.