HuffPost Live interview

[swankivy]

HuffPost Live did an interview with us:

Asexual Pride!

Interview hosted by Ricky Camilerri, including sex researcher Lori Brotto, journalist Dominique Mosbergen, and asexual activists David Jay, Micah R., and me. (I think it's kinda funny that I used my legal name since it was also quoted in the related article Dominique wrote, but people do tend

Comments

[inamac]

Most of my asexual friends (including myself) write raunchy fanfiction - if that's not fantasizing I don't know what is.

Unlike non-asexuals we can fantasize about unattainable film, TV and pop stars without any accompanying worries that we might ever really be in a situation when our fantasies might be realised.

[mullenkamp]

In my case, writing smut is not AT ALL about fantasizing. It's about writing something that people apparently, for some reason, want to read - and seeing if I can pull it off even though I find it completely foreign and bizarre, and don't really get why anyone would want to do any of that stuff or read about other people doing it, and in fact I find writing it really tedious and boring. It's just sort of been an experiment to see if I can write stuff that people find hot... kind of like trying to pass as sexual.

(Survey says: Apparently I can! But that doesn't make it any less boring for me, so I stopped. :D Now people gripe about how I "glossed over" the sex or "faded to black" in fics. Maybe because the story has a point beyond porn?)

So for some asexuals it might be fantasizing, but in my case at the very least, it's definitely not.

[inamac]

Mea culpa. I should have said 'I' rather than 'we', because no one can speak for all asexuals. Though I was using the term 'fantasizing' in its very widest sense in which it applies to all fiction, not just porn.

[mothwing]

Unlike non-asexuals we can fantasize about unattainable film, TV and pop stars without any accompanying worries that we might ever really be in a situation when our fantasies might be realised.
This is the first I have ever heard about anyone worrying about that. Does that really happen? o.O

[draconia_99]

I think it turned out awesome, congrats!

[little_frank]

Thank you!

The guy hosting the discussion annoyed the hell out of me, but it's great to hear this stuff being discussed at least, and validated :-).