Ok, so these past few days have been pretty rough for me, so I might be being overly sensitive, but I got to thinking about a few things? I hope I don't come off as whiny
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She could just be sexually submissive. Some people - both men and women - find it a huge turn on for their partners to make their decisions for them. It's not always unhealthy, sometimes it's just kinky. (Obviously it can be unhealthy, but anything can be unhealthy if it is abused.)
I keep seeing this all the time, again and again. But it seems most people will willingly give up their autonomy and even happiness just for sex. I still don't understand why it's us who is "not normal" here, but that's the way it is. I never interfere, as I can't beginto understand the power sex drive can have.
but all I see from these relationships around me is all one-sided compromises.Keep in mind that you are only seeing one side of the relationship (I mean, I'm assuming these coworkers are not dating one another, and you only know one half of each pair?). You're probably not going to hear from them what the other person is compromising for the relationship
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Maybe I'm just seeing things as overtly bad, but to me at least, when you can't make a choice for yourself, because the other person "knows better" and even though this is what you want, you do what X says, I don't think that's a healthy relationship. Or when you feel like staying home but end up going out just because your significant other is not mature to understand that maybe you just don't feel like mingling w/ your/their friends that day, but you end up conceding in order to avoid a huge fight?
This sounds like a yellow flag to me.
All relationships involve compromise, but doing what someone else says because it's the option with the least friction, on a regular basis, is not a good sign.
It's true that little annoyances become less over time, but consistently deferring to someone else to avoid a fight isn't a "little annoyance."
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This sounds like a yellow flag to me.
All relationships involve compromise, but doing what someone else says because it's the option with the least friction, on a regular basis, is not a good sign.
It's true that little annoyances become less over time, but consistently deferring to someone else to avoid a fight isn't a "little annoyance."
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