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vaginismus and asexuality

Jan 02, 2014 18:33

I'm an asexual woman and few months ago I was diagnosed with vaginismus and wondering if there's a connection with asexuality. I'll cut this as there is a discussion of sex.( Read more... )

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purple_bug January 2 2014, 18:59:19 UTC

A little sexual TMI, perhaps.

I haven't been diagnosed, but I experience extreme pain during pelvic exams, to the point that I have never completed one, even when on valium. I can't do penetrative sex, partly cos of the pain and partly because I'm kinda phobic - probably due to the pain, which I guess makes it not actually a phobia. But my partner is a girl, so it's not such a pressing problem :) She's quite sexual, but she's mostly happy being a 'pillow princess'. Anyway, I don't know if it's linked, but you're not alone :)

cherriesarered January 2 2014, 21:48:20 UTC

Small sexual TMI?

I'm an asexual female who has had penetrative sex before. I don't do it often, partially because I require a lot of foreplay before I'm physically and psychologically interested, and partially because I have some anxiety surrounding the whole thing. Having things in my vagina doesn't usually hurt me, though - even my first time having penis-in-vagina sex wasn't painful. (I was also pretty comfortable with directly putting things - tampons without applicators, menstrual cup, etc. - into my vagina for several years before I started visiting gynecologists or participating in any kind of partnered sex, which I think helped.)

In my case, being asexual hasn't caused any vaginal pain. But I also understand that willingness and interest in sex can do a lot to make your body more receptive, and vice-versa. So in your case, they could be connected - it's hard to say.

cheriola January 3 2014, 14:23:21 UTC

Yeah, it could be connected psychologically in the OP's case, but I don't think there's a direct causal link with asexuality ( ... )

tactlesstruth January 3 2014, 01:21:29 UTC

I don't want to be the bearer of doom and gloom here but I HAD to respond to this ( ... )

virile January 23 2014, 05:12:14 UTC

Just a few words --

Personally, I think many doctors/therapists misunderstand vaginismus - just because it can have a psychological cause doesn't mean that it always does or even that a psychological and a physical cause for pain can't exist at the same time (if something hurts, one would become anxious about it, yes?) The way vaginismus is defined, contractions cause the pain, but to a physician and even to the patient, this can be indistinguishable from pain causing contractions ( ... )

Vaginismus and Asexuality ext_5415631 May 29 2020, 20:59:02 UTC

Hi there! I was also diagnosed with vaginismus. Doctors were baffled, asking me if I had been sexually abused. I reported that no, I luckily had not been, and they offered no other suggestion as to why ( ... )