Sorry for the quiet absence - July was insane! Nashville was amazing - it deserves its own post. Today I want to talk about something I am really focusing on - shutting down the EGO
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Balance! It's never about "shutting down" the ego. Do you want it to rule your life, no, but neither does it need to be shut down. Your emotions and needs are just as important as everyone else's.
The thing is.. if it feels one-sided, it doesn't mean the other person has to up their game. Maybe it means you have the option to relax yours. The Golden Rule doesn't really work. The better approach is to treat yourSELF the way you want to be treated; sometimes people need this modeling that you deserve respect and are not a doormat.
If what's going on for the other person is a question that comes up- sometimes it is appropriate to ask. In a curious way, not an interrogatory way.
If you haven't read it (or maybe even if you had..always a good one for a re-read) I highly recommend The Four Agreements.
WOW! Thank you so much for this - I appreciate it so much. You are so right. I am going to find this book for sure, I googled some info on it and it appears to be just what I need right now. Thank you!!!!
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Balance! It's never about "shutting down" the ego. Do you want it to rule your life, no, but neither does it need to be shut down. Your emotions and needs are just as important as everyone else's.
The thing is.. if it feels one-sided, it doesn't mean the other person has to up their game. Maybe it means you have the option to relax yours. The Golden Rule doesn't really work. The better approach is to treat yourSELF the way you want to be treated; sometimes people need this modeling that you deserve respect and are not a doormat.
If what's going on for the other person is a question that comes up- sometimes it is appropriate to ask. In a curious way, not an interrogatory way.
If you haven't read it (or maybe even if you had..always a good one for a re-read) I highly recommend The Four Agreements.
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