is this normal??

[ashley45_91]

bella is 2 1/2. she talks a little bit but not much. when you ask her something she just stares at you like you have six heads and won't answer. the only time she'll answer is if you ask her if she wants to go bye bye or if she wants juice. its freaking me out the way she just stares. her mom says she does it to her but "it's her way of

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[tattooedmama]

Sounds a little odd she doesnt know her own name...

http://www.parents.com/articles/ages_and_stages/3062.jsp

[ashley45_91]

wow that page says she should be saying about 300 words. she def. doesn't do that. i don't know how to help her :(

[letti_lake]

I don't really know all the details so I'm trying not to draw too many conclusions, but from some other things you said about how when shes with her mother she doesn't seem to really be cared for much, I'm assusimg her lack of communication is probably because nobody interacts with her when shes in her mothers care. If nobody talks to her...like if nobody directs any questions to her how would she know her name or that shes even expected to answer? Think of it as children are like clean slates...parents need to grave onto them basic skills. I know it seems really odd because most of us talk to our children subconsciously without even thinking about it, but imagine if nobody told you to turn the pages in a book from right to left...you would be flipping them every which way. Thats how talking is. I would suggest talking to her A LOT when she is with you. Even if its just "do you want juice?" and she answers "Yes" and you continue on the conversation, "how about in a blue cup?" and get a blue cup out for her, "heres your juice in the

[ashley45_91]

We try to get her to talk to us and answer us but usually just get stared at. I tried talking to her mom about it but she says that "bella's spoiled" I don't know what to do other than keep trying to get her to answer things. We read books too and she seems to like that. Thanks for the advice though! The whole situation just sucks.

[lifeisstatic]

Wow no I would have to say that is not normal. I read somewhere about babys who where neglected. They could be starving or dirty and they wouldn't cry. I guess it has something to do with they know that no one is going to respond so they just dont put forth the effort.

Sounds like she is the one who has been ignored.

Not to sound like I am bragging but when my son was 2 1/2 he could count to ten and knew most of his ABC's. He would also hold entire conversations with his toys. That boy talks my ear off. I mean it's not like perfect english but I know what he is trying to say. I would be concerned. Poor girl.

[ashley45_91]

I know it doesn't seem right. I don't know what to do though. We're trying to get custody because we know she isn't taken care of. I don't know how to help her.

[pinkchica4life]

Bella should know alot more than what your describing, but that could be her mothers fault for not interacting with her, i think you said before that she ignores her alot. She should be doing a whole lot Kayla is just like lifeisstatic son, she can count to 15 knows the entire abc's will talk all day long.
is there a way you & brett could take her to the doctors and ask them some questions about her? There are ways they can help with speech classes and ect.
if you have her alot now just try to pay alot more attention to her get her a picture and word book and read that to her then after awhile she might be able to tell you what everything is :)
I hope everything turns out ok ;)

[punkxbassxchick]

maybe you could teach her some sign language for now to help comunicate?