Comments | asltw: i am very lonely

asltw

i am very lonely

May 03, 2009 00:52

so, i am very lonely. i don't understand how people make friends, and i don't understand how, once you have a friend, you're allowed to just intrude on her life to say, hey, i'm lonely/bored/breathing, let's go do something, let's talk. it seems like that would piss most people off. explanations? how does this work? also, if you are lonely/bored/ ( Read more... )

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pandoras_closet May 3 2009, 07:15:55 UTC

It's not invading one's life, its . . . a friend is someone you can share with. Likes, dislikes, whatever.

I guess you can think of it as intruding, but it cuts both ways. Just as you are allowed to "intrude", so are they allowed to say "No, I have this thing" be it work, study, class, whatever. But a true friend also should be able to tell that you are upset and if they cannot put off the thing, they will promise to meet with you ASAP.

And I would love to hang out, though I fear I'm strange company.

georgiaclaire May 3 2009, 12:22:18 UTC

though I fear I'm strange company.

best kind.

georgiaclaire May 3 2009, 12:20:47 UTC

You can either inch your way in gradually or throw yourself at someone. Either way they often find you strange, but you kinda just suck that up. I tend to throw myself at people so that the weirdness is over faster.

I will be your friend!

brokenhallelu May 3 2009, 14:19:43 UTC

Meetup.com is pretty big in my area...

I have no advice b/c I suck at making friends too. But I also don't like most people.

brokenhallelu May 4 2009, 16:19:05 UTC

The easiest way to make a new friend is to ask people about themselves. Learn about them and let them learn about you and then after you are friends they should be there for you. It takes a while and it is definitely not easy. I didn't have real, true friends until I was 27-28 years old. Unfortunately conformity is always a good thing but I know you don't like to hear that.

brokenhallelu May 4 2009, 16:20:27 UTC

And why are you lonely if you have him in your life? He should be your best friend and always there for you.

asltw May 5 2009, 09:46:58 UTC

it doesn't really work that way, i'm afraid.

anonymous May 7 2009, 11:14:45 UTC

It should work that way. With a little more time and a lot of work it will get there. You will have a relationship that will make you happy. Don't give up and never stop working at it if it is what you truly want.

hailsleepyeyes May 9 2009, 09:18:27 UTC

im down. lets go do something. (not now of course, it's 3am!)