Depends on the promise and what the person did to become "unworthy". If keeping the promise allows harm to come to others (and that includes yourself), it should not be kept. You need to weigh the cost of keeping the promise and the cost of breaking the promise. Which cost is too high? Are there any other options or loop holes available? Is it possible to keep the promise, and at the same time walk away and cut off contact with the unworthy person?
the person is long gone. The duty to THEM was canceled long ago. They even "took up arms" and, broke their promise...
The concept of loop holes and what-not only matter to an outside audience...
the only "harm" would be to, "maybe", my own sense of "honor".
This is not a question of direct, easily applicable social do's and don'ts.
This is more a question of when the costs revolve around your own internal well being... how do you come to terms? How do you keep the faith? When is it ok to "lose" the faith?
When does it stop being the "right" thing, and, just start being a worthless endeavor?
Re: i have to say.. this is some funny shit.sheischangingDecember 22 2006, 21:00:21 UTC
I might have no say in this dialogue you're trying to initiate, but as a person who's done some very "bad" things, and feel I've been able to rise above my weakness of character, and force myself to be a better person even though it wasn't the "easy" route...
Here's some food for thought: is it possible, just possible that human beings can change and grow as people? Phil's told me about his sordid past; the lies, the pain, the manipulation. He was forthcoming about all of it, even though it initially made me want to shy away from him. But the man I've known, the man that you don't know because you're so busy clinging to a jaded, bitter history, is not the man you're trying to paint here.
Sometimes you have to shift your parameters, that means maybe even leaving an old group imbued with nothing but the pain of the past... to grow. Some might call it a running away tactic, and to many it is, but whatever facilitates a person's need to finally develop into something better... well I say take that road. So he has new friends, and a
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Two of them are nestled into the sides of hills, covered in trees, all spooky and wellcoming at the same time...
have you heard of the plans for the basement of decadence???
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The duty to THEM was canceled long ago.
They even "took up arms" and, broke their promise...
The concept of loop holes and what-not only matter to an outside audience...
the only "harm" would be to, "maybe", my own sense of "honor".
This is not a question of direct, easily applicable social do's and don'ts.
This is more a question of when the costs revolve around your own internal well being... how do you come to terms?
How do you keep the faith?
When is it ok to "lose" the faith?
When does it stop being the "right" thing, and, just start being a worthless endeavor?
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Here's some food for thought: is it possible, just possible that human beings can change and grow as people? Phil's told me about his sordid past; the lies, the pain, the manipulation. He was forthcoming about all of it, even though it initially made me want to shy away from him. But the man I've known, the man that you don't know because you're so busy clinging to a jaded, bitter history, is not the man you're trying to paint here.
Sometimes you have to shift your parameters, that means maybe even leaving an old group imbued with nothing but the pain of the past... to grow. Some might call it a running away tactic, and to many it is, but whatever facilitates a person's need to finally develop into something better... well I say take that road. So he has new friends, and a ( ... )
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