Bereavement

[ukulele_player]

I lost a very close friend recently. The person who would normally support me through times like this, who has been available 24/7 in person or at the end of the phone to help me with Asperger issues, who didn't have a problem with my need to discuss things at length and who included me in his social, family and work life.

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[froganon]

I am so sorry for your pain and loss. Perhaps a bit of your close friend in some person, another bit in a different one, and so on.

If you need to talk I will listen. Or if you don't know what to say, I will add you to my flist and write small posts to you and others. My flist is mixed. A few are aspies, some are disabled another ways, a few are NTs, all are supportive.

If you can't or don't want to, that is alright also. Just know that I and others here feel for you.

PS The folks that say we don't have empathy are wrong. We just aren't gushing is all.

[ukulele_player]

Thank you, yes I need to talk. That is my way of coping with life and he is the person I would normally talk to.

[froganon]

okay I've added you.
you don't have to add me back unless you want to.

i will write some stuff tomorrow in my journal for you.

[ukulele_player]

ok I have added you. It is so many years since I used livejournal that I don't know my way around any more.

[ukulele_player]

I have been tearful quite regularly in short bursts. Seems to do me good. I do find it difficult when people don't want to see me cry as I tend only to do so in the right company. When I lost my grandmother donkeys years ago I waited till my then boyfriend returned from working abroad several weeks later before I could cry about it, now it starts to make sense that I did.