Comments | asperger: Hope it’s ok to write this here

oakfarm2 in asperger

Hope it’s ok to write this here

Mar 03, 2016 17:35

My psychology said that it always get so philosophical when talking to me. Have you ever heard a suggestion that goes something like this: “life isn’t about following your dreams or looking for happiness but to accept life for what it is ( Read more... )

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old_cutter_john March 3 2016, 17:46:33 UTC

I see no objection to your post.

The concept that your psychologist endorsed is perhaps better explained here; but intellect isn't a good tool for processing it, and I can offer no hope that an understanding of the principle will make you any happier.

oakfarm2 March 4 2016, 07:17:51 UTC

When writing the title I thought you might be tired of me complaining, since I just done that and have done it in the past (I have had the same problem with angst and frustration for a long time). Plus that I’m not sure if I explained it in a good way, if everything I wanted to say really are in the text.

tigerbright March 4 2016, 11:34:57 UTC

Radical acceptance is different than giving up hope, in my opinion and experience.

My executive function is affected by cyclothymia and ADHD, not autism, but I have strategies that I can share for keeping on track. If those strategies still didn't help me, I'd travel with a like-minded companion who was able to keep things from getting lost or misplaced. But strengths can be complementary; my autistic son happens to have the talent of keeping track of the mental map of familiar places, and can definitely take the place of a GPS when I lose track of where I am while driving. When my perseverations match his, we are unstoppable.

So practice radical acceptance for things that won't change, but find different ways to do the things you want to do. Inclusion is becoming more than just a buzzword, and you may find social stories and checklists (often written by NT folks who get it) that can help make your wishes come true.

oakfarm2 March 6 2016, 16:07:38 UTC

Off topic, being like a GPS, I used to be like that. I think my great sense of direction disappeared when I started to get trouble with vertigo. Not that there's much you can do with that information. Jokily I can give the advise, make sure your son doesn't get vertigo.

Accepting Limitations.. saritriplezero9 March 4 2016, 22:36:05 UTC

...can set you free so you can thrive. It does not preclude but demands that you question what is and isn't a limitation or impossible. It goes well with checking resources, researching your goals, and brain storming. It's all part of being "grounded" and blooming where you are.

Accepting reality is not the the opposite of having dreams and followinf them.