Modesty Doesn't Love Company

[mel_pa]

Whenever I take a shower and
my mom comes upstairs to do
something she criticizes me
for being startled "We're BOTH
WOMEN for god's sake!" Modesty
"between women" is pathological.
I am modest with both sexes (and
everything in between), but I am
FTM and closeted. What can I do?

Comments

[hellmutt]

Hiya. First off, I can't tell how old you are, but I'm guessing you're a teenager purely because you're living with your mom... If you put it this way she might understand more easily: "Mom, I'm growing up now and I'm going to need some more privacy". I can't tell from your post how clued-up or clueless your mom might be about parenting teens. Showing her this site might help with the basics.

I quite agree with your views about this stupid myth that all women should be comfortable with other women, and men with men. Whether other people have boobs or not isn't the issue. The issue is my own body, and what I'm comfortable doing with it or who I'm comfortable with seeing it.

[mel_pa]

I'm 46!

[hellmutt]

Haha! Ok, then ignore my first parargaph!

Perhaps something as simple as closing the bathroom door (or locking it, if it locks) might work? She should understand and respect that. If she's opening the door and coming in, she might need gently telling that the closed door is a signal that you need a bit of alone time.

[aureantes]

Well, then you can tell her that you're an adult, and that you don't feel right about her walking in on you as if you were still little. Grownup people have the right to feel uncomfortable too, if people come too close into their personal space. And if a bathroom ain't personal space to the person using it, then what is?