I really love No. 5 from your "now" section. I think you're the only person I know, besides me, who calmly and rationally states their desire never to have children, and doesn't think its strange.
I can be a real girl's girl sometimes, but I have no problem admitting I'm too selfish to share my body with someone else for nine months and then put my whole life aside to raise them. I just don't. Other women sometimes look at me like I'm broken, others are just completely gobsmacked. I'm not saying it to be shocking, people, its just the way it is!
Other women sometimes look at me like I'm broken, others are just completely gobsmacked.
seriously. I couldnt have said it better myself. Back home I have a family friend who is pregnant with her 8th child. I think she started having babies in like 1996 and hasnt stopped since. She claims all of them were planned, but has struggled with money the entire time. Her husband is currently unemployed and she is on food stamps...
Yet, we are the "bad ones" because we are not fulfilling our God-given duties to reproduce. Afterall, there isnt more to life than having kids right?
What's worse - bringing up 8 kids when you cant afford them, or having no kids? siiiigh. I'm glad someone is on my side here :)
My mom, God bless her cause she wants a grand baby, even agrees to a certain point. She saw all these kids running around at a recent wedding we attended and was like Geesh...these kids are only like 22 and they already have like 3 kids! Where did their youth go...
Beyond those reasons, for me, its definitely out of sympathy for any future children I might have, that I choose not to have them. My physiological makeup would leave a kid flat-out effed straight out of the gate, and I wouldn't want to knowingly put another human being in that situation.
My family, fearing this very thing, have never once complained about my lack of a desire to have children. To be honest, I think they're relieved. They can't wait for my other two sisters to start popping them out, but even when I was engaged and planning to have children, no one pushed me the way they do my sisters or cousins. Like, ever. Which is FINE, don't get me wrong - but its a little sad knowing they have as little faith in my own abilities as a mother as I do.
yeah I also feel bad for any children that I would have to mother....I think they would hate me because I would be too strict and probably yell at them constantly....sigh.
I am sorry to hear that the 'fam doesnt have much faith in you as a mother...i think you have wonderful wisdom that could be passed on. But you can still do that as Aunt Betsey too
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I can be a real girl's girl sometimes, but I have no problem admitting I'm too selfish to share my body with someone else for nine months and then put my whole life aside to raise them. I just don't. Other women sometimes look at me like I'm broken, others are just completely gobsmacked. I'm not saying it to be shocking, people, its just the way it is!
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seriously. I couldnt have said it better myself. Back home I have a family friend who is pregnant with her 8th child. I think she started having babies in like 1996 and hasnt stopped since. She claims all of them were planned, but has struggled with money the entire time. Her husband is currently unemployed and she is on food stamps...
Yet, we are the "bad ones" because we are not fulfilling our God-given duties to reproduce. Afterall, there isnt more to life than having kids right?
What's worse - bringing up 8 kids when you cant afford them, or having no kids? siiiigh. I'm glad someone is on my side here :)
My mom, God bless her cause she wants a grand baby, even agrees to a certain point. She saw all these kids running around at a recent wedding we attended and was like Geesh...these kids are only like 22 and they already have like 3 kids! Where did their youth go...
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My family, fearing this very thing, have never once complained about my lack of a desire to have children. To be honest, I think they're relieved. They can't wait for my other two sisters to start popping them out, but even when I was engaged and planning to have children, no one pushed me the way they do my sisters or cousins. Like, ever. Which is FINE, don't get me wrong - but its a little sad knowing they have as little faith in my own abilities as a mother as I do.
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I am sorry to hear that the 'fam doesnt have much faith in you as a mother...i think you have wonderful wisdom that could be passed on. But you can still do that as Aunt Betsey too
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