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Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb

Apr 01, 2010 22:35

Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb

Recently I read Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb. This book has been getting much publicity, both good and bad. It seems to me that those who attack her either have not read the book or completely misunderstand it ( Read more... )

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sillypyah April 2 2010, 04:11:59 UTC

very interesting post. I think to be married, you have to be able to live with the person, and that is what really matters. I would add, though, that we women need to make it clear from Day 1 of any relationship that we won't tolerate crap. There is way too much that men get away with, and society allows it. Fathers "babysit" their own children one night a week and are considered heroes. Boyfriends don't cheat and that's good enough. Husbands pick up their own socks and put them in the hamper- woohoo! If women as a group decided that we were not going to date/marry/procreate with the men who did not meet their responsibilities, we'd have a much easier time finding decent guys. If we taught our daughters to expect decent treatment (not even good, just DECENT!!) and our sons to provide decent treatment, I think it would be a lot easier to find a good guy to marry. And, speaking as someone with a lot of married friends, there are a lot of duds out there (and they're still considered good because they do the bare minimum).

totally agree! athena328 April 2 2010, 15:11:14 UTC

How is married life going for you? It seems like your husband is a good man! What made you decide that he was the one you wanted to marry ( ... )

Re: totally agree! sillypyah April 4 2010, 18:25:05 UTC

He is a very good man. :) I knew I wanted to marry him because he was smart and ambitious, really wanted children, was willing to raise his children Jewish, had a good sense of humor, had similar values about money, etc. One moment I knew was when he was complaining about his brother-in-law, and said that he (Brandon) wanted someone who would be willing to "dance in the kitchen." Like enjoying silly things and not taking yourself too seriously. I liked that a lot.