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[austingoddess]

Huh. Retrogrades may be annoying, may be confuzzled, may be revealing...and then sometimes they do stuff and you don't know what to do with them

Comments

[emmainfiniti]

Interesting.
As a former devout baptist I remember that the occasional sermon reminded us to maintain loving relationships with out heathen friends and family members, so they could see how jesus works in our life and eventually see the light and be persuaded to convert.
I hope the drive-thru hugging goes well for you.

[austingoddess]

lol...it might be something like that. :) Might also be that he's come to some sort of terms or acceptance about old stuff or wants to talk about it. Or maybe mortality calls. Who knows? As somewhat uncomfortable resuming some sort of contact with him will be, I'll still give him the chance to speak his mind.

[psylent1]

I've learned over the years that sometimes even the more hardened relatives will bend, even change a bit. One day they just stop being mad (or scared) and just, bend. I hope that the meeting between you is positive.

[austingoddess]

People certainly do change, family included. Especially when they let something painful change. I don't know that's what is, if my mom has told him how perplexed I was over what he was holding on to. Or if E is right and this is some sort of tis-the-season Xtian forgiveness thing. :) For me, the important thing is that he's extending a laurel, even if it's briefly, and I don't know how I feel about it.

[emmainfiniti]

I certainly hope that, whatever the motivation, this leads to a more healthy relationship for the two of you.

[lynnivere]

I find that we all do things bc we think our life will be better if we do them. Certainly, I feel affinity for you bc I *know* my life is better for you being in it in any capacity.

I hope he genuinely feels that way too. He's a lucky guy to have ever had the option of having you in his life. *hugs*

[scorpionis]

I'm all for extended chances for family members if there isn't some kind of past baggage that's just going to make anyone feel bad again. In the absence of that, it sounds like a nice opportunity to possibly open a door again. I wouldn't be afraid to ask, "So, what brought this on?" The answer will tell you a lot about his motivations.