my ear hurts--i'm sure it's nothing wine can't fix

[autumn_eyez]

 so last night dan and i went out to old c's after dinner with his parents.  i felt like i'd been being very solitary lately and i could use a night of really silly fun with friends.  also i was EXAUSTED hahaha.  i had stayed up till 12 watching olympic gymnastics the night before

Comments

[crack_in_a_box]

Yea that totally sounds like you were COMPLETELY misrepresented. And yes, as a dog lover, I am saying there must have been a reason as to why the cops would shoot the dogs because they wouldn't do that just for the hell of it (we hope). I love that you can defend yourself and that you will continue to do so. Conversations are not always about agreeing with one another and healthy debates are wonderful and by simply pointing out a different view point is no way a diss on someone. As I studied Journalism in school, we were taught to always try to remain objective no matter how or where our politics or morals fell. So often, I felt myself playing devil's advocate but this often made others angry at me. Stay true to yourself and be proud of yourself. I love that you are sweet, charming and funny. But I love that you are a strong, confident woman. I love you!

Part 1

[isabel_archer79]

So, I love that you had silly fun with John and Chad - fun nights with people you generally don’t like are sort of extra fun in that they are totally unexpected! And yeah, I totally don’t get the Coe and Jeron story, but it somehow seems about right - the cops kinda live at Coe’s

Part 2

[isabel_archer79]

Keep your voice level and calm, don’t speak too quickly, don’t speak too loudly, don’t use very much body language, don’t interrupt, don’t let them upset you, and no matter what, DON’T start to cry, even a little - if you feel yourself getting upset, make a joke, or take a breath (don’t let them see you do it, though) until you feel calm again, or just change the subject - go for cigarette break if needs be. DO look them directly in the eyes, do speak in a level even tone, do let them overreact while you sit there calmly, and do let them interrupt you and behave badly while you wait. Why? Because this is how men deal with one another when they are fighting for Alpha dog status, and when you are asserting you authority, your equality, and your independence as a woman, it is often necessary to speak to boys in a language that they understand

Part 3

[isabel_archer79]

Think of it like this - you know how sometimes you need Dan to do something (and in this scenario you’re sober so you are NOT picking a crazy fight and throwing your show at him, hahahaha), so you know that the easiest way to get it done is to sort of suggest it in such a way that even though Dan KNOWS it’s your idea, he can sort of save face by pretending it was his idea? Yeah, I’m betting that you must do that a bunch, haha… So, ok, with boys and debates it’s the same kind of thing

[nammysinclair]

I think the most important thing to rememeber is that there are so many people in your life who will continue loving you forever. And who love your silliness and your inteligence, your passion and idealism and on and on and on. When it comes right down to it, if people stop liking you because you are who you are, then they never really REALLY liked you anyways. Plus-I really think a lot of people like Chad and Grover have a hard time with people who are not living in the very limited world of drinking and working that they live in. And you can't live in that world all the time to make them like you (you can maybe visit from time to time).

Also, I have found the G is getting increasingly assholey. I just think he is slipping into a pattern where he is mean and uncaring and not silly at all. And my choice has definately been to stop hanging out with him. I personally would rather not see him than get my feelings hurt every time I do.