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[autumnpoet]

These days I'm having to be very careful that I keep close watch over my emotional attachments and affections, too aware that they could lead to romantic love as opposed to platonic love; and given that I believe this would be a set up for unrequited pain, I'm being very diligent. Gotta watch my internal monologue and story-making so as not to

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[ember_sinclair]

have you talked about it with him ? or is that something you don't consider an option ?

[autumnpoet]

Don't wanna. Nope nope. I like things the way they are, so beautifully authentic and casual. I don't want things not to be casual, and I think a lot of the allure and reason it works is because it's like that. And since he's not in love with me, I really don't want to fall for him in that way. I think it would disturb the cool thing we have going on. And I soooo, sooo, sooo don't want to do anything to jeopardize this thing. It's too good as it is.

[ember_sinclair]

I just hope your not both wanting more but holding back for all the reasons you mentioned ... Although i suppose it doesn't matter as long as you think what you have now is preferable to " romantic love"

[kontractions]

>>romantic love as opposed to platonic love

It's my understanding that the term "platonic" means a purely "spiritual" love, devoid of sensual desire.

It's also my understanding, through the little tidbits I have gathered here and there (not much) that this is already a sensual relationship.

I'm not sure I understand the difference between spiritual love involving sensual interaction and "romantic" love. For myself, the distinction would be somewhat arbitrary if it existed at all, and I don't usually try to separate into these dichotomies.

In what way is my perception of your relationship wrong? Or, in what way do we have differing definitions of "platonic" and "romantic" love? Or, if you have successfully prevented yourself from loving, what emotional and psychological functions exactly have you prevented?

Feel free to tell me it's none of my business, or to answer via email, of course.