Do any of you guys have any advice on good ways to purge the negative feelings of a break up? Any humor? Any personal things you do afterwards to feel better? I am just curious to see how we all manage it.
I try to take the pain, anger, and all the pent up emotional aggression that tends to come after a break up and channel it into something positive. Last break up I had got me back involved in kickboxing after a 2 year break. Six month's later I'm back in kick ass shape, I've met some great new people through my training program, and having regularly scheduled time in my weekly schedule to just let loose and pummel something, even if it is just the training bag is a great stress reliever.
Get involved with a volunteer organization. Don't bring your baggage with you: you're here, you've got skills, you want to help.
Sign up for community theatre, hang out at a food bank, whatever. Find something to drown in.
Go to your local movie library and watch all the films you've been meaning to watch but never got around to. (Citizen Cane? Brokeback Mountain? Charade?)
Delete all the love songs on your mp3 player and come up with suitable replacements.
Sign up for a freeonlinemulti-playergame of your choice and spend a few hours a day vegging out and chatting with strangers.
Go for long indulgent drives to nowhere in particular. You don't even need a convertible. Do it late at night on country roads for best effect. (But be careful out there.)
I always give myself a finite amount of time to wallow in self pity; varies according to length of relationship. During this time, I listen to an endless stream of breakup music (there's tons of good, bitter break up music out there that is very cathartic), do some of the other more self destructive things mentioned above, and then when that time has finished, so has my funk. From there on out, it's onward and upward. Get reacquainted with friends you didn't spend as much time with as you probably should have when you were coupled. Heal. Good luck!
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Get involved with a volunteer organization. Don't bring your baggage with you: you're here, you've got skills, you want to help.
Sign up for community theatre, hang out at a food bank, whatever. Find something to drown in.
Go to your local movie library and watch all the films you've been meaning to watch but never got around to. (Citizen Cane? Brokeback Mountain? Charade?)
Delete all the love songs on your mp3 player and come up with suitable replacements.
Read TV Tropes.
Sign up for a free online multi-player game of your choice and spend a few hours a day vegging out and chatting with strangers.
Go for long indulgent drives to nowhere in particular. You don't even need a convertible. Do it late at night on country roads for best effect. (But be careful out there.)
Travel.
Whatever.
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