"You've got another world, and I'm not in it."

[avus]

Dear Friends --

Jane continues to teach me. It's not just that I can be a slow learner, but she keeps changing, so there are new things to learn. And while the new things are hopeful, they're also sad, frustrating & scary, but they must be addressed together & realistically for her recovery.

Monday, April 18th -- Tuesday, April 19th

Comments

[grondfic]

Please, Avus, take care of yourself as well as Jane.

[avus]

Yes, thanks, dear grondfic, for the reminder. And I find, curiously, than even as dense as I usually am about such things, I'm doing an at least slightly better job of it than I usually do.

[jennyanydots21]

the best indication that she'll get better is that she was continuing to get better

But also, perhaps, that she's far surpassed everyone's predictions for how much better? She's come so far, and in what really is a very short space of time for a head injury (even though it must have seemed ages)... She's progressed to a level far beyond what, for example, my friend's granddad has achieved in the twelve years since he had a stroke...

Going on your continued posts I hope, and believe, that Jane will keep on keepin' on! *hugs* and best of luck to you both!

(And yes, do take care of yourself too! Walks are good!)

[avus]

But also, perhaps, that she's far surpassed everyone's predictions for how much better? She's come so far, and in what really is a very short space of time for a head injury (even though it must have seemed ages)...

Yes, thanks so much for the reminder. We lose perspective so easily. Frankly, I have no sense of time. Most of my time, OUR time feels like floundering in an eternal now, with future only dimly seen, and a past being quickly swallowed up by present needs & busy-ness. And while I've worked with several who've had closed head injuries, I've never worked with any right at the beginning. And, of course, I've only lived with one with a brain injury. All this combines to create regular loss of perspective and over-valuing of doc-speak, which is rarely healing, almost always bad.

So I really do appreciate not only your letting us know about your sharing our journey, but hauling me back into some kind of perspective.

And, yes, I plan to take my walk today, Sunday. And I took my walk yesterday. Walks are good.

*hugs*

[avus]

I feel guilty, in a way, fo finding in your logs an example and inspiration to remember for the furture, should I evern find myself in a similar situation.

Oh, please, please, dear zephyrious, that guilt is misplaced. That you're sharing our journey really does help us. And that someone else might be able to find meaning, help, solace, encouragement, whatever from our experiences is, for us, most heartening. It creates a meaning that is very dear to us.

Your comments about "that six-month recovery thing" are very helpful. Of cours! *headdesk* Why would I think that docs are keeping close track of research. I know better, b/c I work around many docs. And why would I think that Jane would follow the norm, anyway. I know that, too. But again & again, I so much depend on people like you reminding me of what I know but have forgetten in our busy-ness.

Thanks so much for your 2p.