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awccmfan

Part Two: Glendale

Mar 11, 2008 22:43

So, I ended up joining the guy I totally dig (see previous post) on his trip to Glendale to check out a hydrogen generator. It was a gorgeous day out - the weather was perfect. We talked and laughed all the way there and then on the way to coffee, on me. Well, coffee for him, smoothie for me ( Read more... )

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mollie_1013 March 12 2008, 12:08:04 UTC

I say play it cool. Just keep it casual right now and let it go where it goes. Telling him that you enjoyed hanging out with him was perfect: it's honest but not demanding. If he is afraid to express his feelings and you start calling him all of the time and confessing feelings to him, it's just going to scare him and make him pull away. Give it time and let it grow on it's own, even if it only ever becomes a friendship.

mystways March 12 2008, 15:45:27 UTC

Get it off your chest. Definitely get it off your chest. That's what I did, very recently in fact... not that it produced any results, other than it let the guy in question know that I thought he had been an asshole, and that's something you should tell someone, if it's true. And we're still friends. And anyway, I think he was pleasantly surprised that I was so honest with him, since I had a hard time opening up to him when we were together anyway.

Btw, I cant' remember if I told you I'll be in LA 6-10 of April. SO excited! SO going to farmers market and the Standard and the library and coffee shops and - and - Kristi might come too. We'll be expecting to see you. And maybe a lift, somewhere or other, since we will both be car-less. (Or just me, if Kristi doesn't come.) By that time I should be good at hitchhiking. How much is gas? Oh, gas...

well.... awccmfan March 12 2008, 16:51:58 UTC

I understand what you are saying - it's good to get something off your chest, but it's kind of different to tell someone they are an asshole vs telling them you really really really like them. Both are kind of scary, but they are coming from different places...in my mind anyway.

I'm not driving right now. I don't know if I will be by April - if I am, of course I'll give you a lift, but you have to let me know ahead of time before I get my schedule all locked down.

The cheapest gas you can find is around 3.50 near my house and in areas like that. I saw it for 4.19 at an off brand station near melrose and fairfax yesterday

Re: well.... mystways March 12 2008, 16:55:43 UTC

4.19!?!?! What craziness. Well I hope to see you anyway, lift or bus or whatever.

And I understand your fear of telling him how you feel, and I've certainly been there too. And all I can say, in hindsight, is that it's usually better to be truthful. If you are really seriously honest about how you feel, I think it will make you feel better about the situation, regardless of what he says. I know that kind of vulnerability is hard, but I still think it's worth it, instead of playing games, or wondering if he's playing games, or hoping you know how to play the game...

thesaucyminx March 14 2008, 06:28:05 UTC

Hmmm... this is not an easy pickle, my friend! In my own life, I tend to be the "get it all out there type," but this has not always served me well, and in fact, I think it is often selfish and self-serving, despite all the flowery things I tell myself. I think I'd have to agree with Mollie. Take a deep breath. If it's meant to be, it will be. And if you can't stand to wait that long, maybe it's best to move on. It's cliche, but I think we women really do want to "save" our men and pry deep into their souls, to see what even they can't, etc. etc... in the long run, it might not be a good thing to have a man who can't say what he's feeling and/or properly pursue you.

(And sorry if that contradicts everything I said the other day... I don't remember what I said now ;)