I still get treated like a 12-year old living at home. It's natural. Sigh. It's only when you ask for something that they go "You're old enough to do it yourself."
LOL Mom recently asked me "Why don't you try e-harmony?" I could only reply that I'm not that desperate. Dad told me to concentrate on getting my engineering license first.
There were of course lessons on premarital sex and immorality
Be cautious here. Many lessons on this matter are simply a reinforcement of the fetishization of virginity.
It makes sense to restrain my desire, because it allows me to have a much more meaningful relationship.
Make sure you don't confuse "restrain" with "suppress" or "repress". Meaningful relationships and love in general are based on several things: Trust, passion, intimacy, and respect. All aspects must exist in a manner that is suitable for both partners or the relationship will crumble. Finding that suitable harmony takes effort, time, and practice.
I have a lot of problems when religion uses spirituality to control sexuality in a manner that pays only lip service to respect while repressing passion when its goal is a veiled attempt to reinforce duty; often in a sexist manner, to boot.
for a while there, I was considering joining Adult Friend-Finder, if just to have a little fling with someone. When you say or think of, "little fling," what aspects of that idea
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"I don't think it was virginity the sermon was so focused on rather than the emphasis of a relationship based on mutual respect/character vs a relationship based on sex
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The fling thing without names is purely a reference to the cliche empty one-night standers depicted on TV...and usually done by characters who are pretty damaged to begin with. And it's tempting to get sex without consequences
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I think Mom knows how ridiculous the conversations sounded after she got off the phone....or maybe Dad told her since he heard some of it...I know she has my best interests in mind, just that now it's really clear where I've inherited my foot-in-mouth syndrome. I just couldn't help posting them--looking back, these could be lines straight out of a movie! Particularly that bit about...*whisper*...porno movies. XD Anyway, I'll give OK Cupid a try and let you know what happens!
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LOL Mom recently asked me "Why don't you try e-harmony?" I could only reply that I'm not that desperate. Dad told me to concentrate on getting my engineering license first.
Hang in there, Tinachris...
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Be cautious here. Many lessons on this matter are simply a reinforcement of the fetishization of virginity.
It makes sense to restrain my desire, because it allows me to have a much more meaningful relationship.
Make sure you don't confuse "restrain" with "suppress" or "repress". Meaningful relationships and love in general are based on several things: Trust, passion, intimacy, and respect. All aspects must exist in a manner that is suitable for both partners or the relationship will crumble. Finding that suitable harmony takes effort, time, and practice.
I have a lot of problems when religion uses spirituality to control sexuality in a manner that pays only lip service to respect while repressing passion when its goal is a veiled attempt to reinforce duty; often in a sexist manner, to boot.
for a while there, I was considering joining Adult Friend-Finder, if just to have a little fling with someone.
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