Current Frustrations
Arg, this is really starting to drive me nuts. I am sick and tired of being ignored. Or given the run around with answers.
But when I ask people to comment on what I say/give/show them, I expect some sort of cohesive or at lease useful response. I’ve told Zolae I don’t like it when he says “It’s fine” with everything I cook or decide to wear, but I at least understand; he doesn’t care, a lot of the time (of course, he’s a guy, and would rather see me naked anyways =)~ ).
But that’s the point for the rest of the answers. You give a vague answer like that, I’m either going to assume you don’t care, or you’re trying to skirt around the issue, which I really hate, too. Same for anything I make or write. My drawing sucks, so at least I don’t expect the best answer, but seriously, is it that hard to give a yes or no sometimes? Or just “I’d rather not look/read/talk about it right now.”
Take our writing for example. Zolae and I BOTH have this problem, and we find it VERY aggravating. We show our stories to others; friends, family, anyone who shows an interest really. It’s not like we’re plunking War and Peace, or the entire Wheel of Time series in their laps or something, it’s the first couple chapters of whatever, or a short story. Something they could probably read in less than half an hour.
And the responses we get? “Oh, it’s good” is usually the only one. Almost everyone either doesn’t bother to read, or doesn’t bother to comment. What? Do people think this is just a bloody hobby or something? No, this isn’t! We want to get this stuff published, damn it, and we could use input! These are people who are supposed to be interested in us, and how we’re doing, and they can’t help us out with this? Blah. Blah, I say.
We tend to read everything someone sends us. I’ve managed to go through over 10 chapters of someone else’s fanfiction, and several chapters of his other stories. BECAUSE HE ASKED ME TO. Is it really that hard to do it in return? Sheesh.
It isn’t just writing either that we have this problem. Recently, we’ve been getting more and more vague comments from lots of people, either putting us off or ignoring what the hell we said. We’re not doing this just to hear ourselves talk. If we say we’re tired, we are not going to pick up a joke. And it’s not funny to laugh at us over it either. If we ask you how you’re doing, we’re honestly interested. I really dislike it when people ask me that just because they’re supposed to, or for something to say. If I ask that, and they’re having a bad day, I actually want to know about it. Which does surprise some people, because so many people use that as ‘filler’ in conversation. I don’t HAVE filler conversation, really. If I ask a question, I want to know the actual bloody answer! Don’t ignore what I’m saying, or asking here!
I get this at work too. I can’t count how many times I’ve said the smokers that stand right outside the door are bothering me, but nothing ever happens. I get this with the people I talk to on the phone. I’m calling for a dealership, not the bloody city council! And where the hell did they get that idea, anyways? When I ask if they were happy with the work done, it’s a yes or no question! What the hell does “It was all right” mean? Yes or No, damn it!
If I am not going to like something you say, go ahead and say it! Seriously! I’m not joking. I would MUCH prefer people to be blunt, and me to be upset, and then FIX THE PROBLEM, then having people beat around the damn bush or make me feel like whatever I am telling them is freakin’ pointless. THAT gets me frustrated, annoyed, and doesn’t solve a god damned thing.
Tell me the truth. Don’t do a half-assed job of sugar coating anything.
Tell me an answer when I ask. I want to hear it.
Tell me ANYTHING. It’s certainly better than being ignored.
But somehow, I don’t think this rant is going to change anything. Which is, somewhat ironically, the whole point.
But when I ask people to comment on what I say/give/show them, I expect some sort of cohesive or at lease useful response. I’ve told Zolae I don’t like it when he says “It’s fine” with everything I cook or decide to wear, but I at least understand; he doesn’t care, a lot of the time (of course, he’s a guy, and would rather see me naked anyways =)~ ).
But that’s the point for the rest of the answers. You give a vague answer like that, I’m either going to assume you don’t care, or you’re trying to skirt around the issue, which I really hate, too. Same for anything I make or write. My drawing sucks, so at least I don’t expect the best answer, but seriously, is it that hard to give a yes or no sometimes? Or just “I’d rather not look/read/talk about it right now.”
Take our writing for example. Zolae and I BOTH have this problem, and we find it VERY aggravating. We show our stories to others; friends, family, anyone who shows an interest really. It’s not like we’re plunking War and Peace, or the entire Wheel of Time series in their laps or something, it’s the first couple chapters of whatever, or a short story. Something they could probably read in less than half an hour.
And the responses we get? “Oh, it’s good” is usually the only one. Almost everyone either doesn’t bother to read, or doesn’t bother to comment. What? Do people think this is just a bloody hobby or something? No, this isn’t! We want to get this stuff published, damn it, and we could use input! These are people who are supposed to be interested in us, and how we’re doing, and they can’t help us out with this? Blah. Blah, I say.
We tend to read everything someone sends us. I’ve managed to go through over 10 chapters of someone else’s fanfiction, and several chapters of his other stories. BECAUSE HE ASKED ME TO. Is it really that hard to do it in return? Sheesh.
It isn’t just writing either that we have this problem. Recently, we’ve been getting more and more vague comments from lots of people, either putting us off or ignoring what the hell we said. We’re not doing this just to hear ourselves talk. If we say we’re tired, we are not going to pick up a joke. And it’s not funny to laugh at us over it either. If we ask you how you’re doing, we’re honestly interested. I really dislike it when people ask me that just because they’re supposed to, or for something to say. If I ask that, and they’re having a bad day, I actually want to know about it. Which does surprise some people, because so many people use that as ‘filler’ in conversation. I don’t HAVE filler conversation, really. If I ask a question, I want to know the actual bloody answer! Don’t ignore what I’m saying, or asking here!
I get this at work too. I can’t count how many times I’ve said the smokers that stand right outside the door are bothering me, but nothing ever happens. I get this with the people I talk to on the phone. I’m calling for a dealership, not the bloody city council! And where the hell did they get that idea, anyways? When I ask if they were happy with the work done, it’s a yes or no question! What the hell does “It was all right” mean? Yes or No, damn it!
If I am not going to like something you say, go ahead and say it! Seriously! I’m not joking. I would MUCH prefer people to be blunt, and me to be upset, and then FIX THE PROBLEM, then having people beat around the damn bush or make me feel like whatever I am telling them is freakin’ pointless. THAT gets me frustrated, annoyed, and doesn’t solve a god damned thing.
Tell me the truth. Don’t do a half-assed job of sugar coating anything.
Tell me an answer when I ask. I want to hear it.
Tell me ANYTHING. It’s certainly better than being ignored.
But somehow, I don’t think this rant is going to change anything. Which is, somewhat ironically, the whole point.