Friendship's a certain level of understanding, compromise and caring. But...no one can truly find someone who fully, truly understands you completely. Not even once you actually bare it all out on say, LJ ;).
If you're caring for other people expecting for care in return...be prepared to be very disappointed.
Basically, we're all alone. I learned that when friends don't know you well enough, or don't care enough, it's not because they simply don't care, it's because there's a limit to the human capacity to care.
Or maybe I'm being presumptious and judging something that I don't really know about.
In the end, we're all alone, but no man is an island, there should/has to be some degree of friendship along the way. (... i think i just contradicted myself)
I could compare a parent's capacity to care, but that would be taking it out of context.
Some people believe in having close friends, others dont. I've been let down before, but I believe in hope, and thus i keep on trying. (its like finding that one true love) :D
To me, its not about how much a friend understands or how much a friend cares. its about the effort. even if you don't understand, or no time to care, but at least tried to, that means the world to me. :)
i know what you mean because right now, i am going through a friend-crisis not dissimilar to the one you're experiencing. it's a real jolt when you realize that someone you've spend so much time with (like, 10 years) knows nothing about you.
but i suppose they can't be perfect and they sure are great in many different ways.
I put in my effort, my time, my heart into it, i put in 110% into friends that i believe in, and one by one, they let me down. i know not everyone is like me, not everyone believes in having close friends, but i do.
I know what you mean, cos I used to do that too. I'd pour all of my heart and soul into friendships and relationships. Not to mention the money I spent on buying gifts and I had to watch my friends; one by one; let me down and leave me behind.
I didn't know and still don't know what made us drift apart. I could take it that our personality, mindset and expectations have changed. I try to take this lightly. I reassure myself that I can find lots of other and even better friends. It's like you said, only time will tell. So hang in there.
its hard to really measure up friendship with friends, cause theoretically, you are still 2 different people, and there are things in between that both parties might not understand. that's when faith comes in, have faith, and hope for the better.
change is expected, we change, does it mean friendships have to change... but i guess the reality is that it happens. it happened to me before, but i thought i could change it. it happened again, so i guess it just wasn't meant to be. at least i can say i tried. its an illusion after all isn't it? it would be nice if it was a reality though. (there i go dreaming again)
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Friendship's a certain level of understanding, compromise and caring. But...no one can truly find someone who fully, truly understands you completely. Not even once you actually bare it all out on say, LJ ;).
If you're caring for other people expecting for care in return...be prepared to be very disappointed.
Basically, we're all alone. I learned that when friends don't know you well enough, or don't care enough, it's not because they simply don't care, it's because there's a limit to the human capacity to care.
Or maybe I'm being presumptious and judging something that I don't really know about.
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In the end, we're all alone, but no man is an island, there should/has to be some degree of friendship along the way. (... i think i just contradicted myself)
I could compare a parent's capacity to care, but that would be taking it out of context.
Some people believe in having close friends, others dont. I've been let down before, but I believe in hope, and thus i keep on trying. (its like finding that one true love) :D
To me, its not about how much a friend understands or how much a friend cares. its about the effort. even if you don't understand, or no time to care, but at least tried to, that means the world to me. :)
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but i suppose they can't be perfect and they sure are great in many different ways.
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I know what you mean, cos I used to do that too. I'd pour all of my heart and soul into friendships and relationships. Not to mention the money I spent on buying gifts and I had to watch my friends; one by one; let me down and leave me behind.
I didn't know and still don't know what made us drift apart. I could take it that our personality, mindset and expectations have changed. I try to take this lightly. I reassure myself that I can find lots of other and even better friends. It's like you said, only time will tell. So hang in there.
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but i guess the reality is that it happens. it happened to me before, but i thought i could change it. it happened again, so i guess it just wasn't meant to be. at least i can say i tried.
its an illusion after all isn't it? it would be nice if it was a reality though. (there i go dreaming again)
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