Reminds me of something that bothered me several years ago, and still ponder sometimes.
I was talking to a co-worker whose male boss is gay. I mentioned to the co-worker that I had met his boss's boyfriend over the weekend. He immediately wanted to know who did I think was the more "feminine" of the two.
In the case of this couple, it was my co-worker's boss.
But I'm bothered by this notion that in homosexual couples, one is suppose to be more masculine and the other is suppose to be more feminine apparently. I don't understand why both parters can't be equally feminine or masculine.
curious, have you ever met a couple that is equal that way? I know or have known quite a few people who are bi or gay and I never have met people of equal masculine or feminine traits in the relationship, one is always more masculine and the other feminine. I dont' think it's impossible for it to be equal, but I was wondering if you've witnessed it
To be honest? No. I haven't. But then I haven't met that many gay couples so I can't say for sure such a couple exists.
It just seemed to me at the time, and to a certain degree still, that it was an attempt by a heterosexual to make a gay couple as much like a heterosexual couple as he could by assigning one the more feminine role and the other the more masculine role. And in some ways that seemed wrong, buy I really can't explain why it seemed wrong.
At the same time I can see why he'd do that. It seems human nature to try to equate something we don't really understand to something that we do understand.
OTOH a fictinal gay coule (Willow and Tara on Buffy the Vampire Slayer) didn't seem to have as much of a distinctive difference that I could tell. But maybe I was too wrapped up in the surrounding storylines to see the difference.
hi there, new to the blogging scene as u mite be able to tell from my journal. happened to stumble across ur journal because i used ayesha as a searchword. was just folling around. that's my wife's name. personally speaking, LSBT are too damn stereotyped in mainstream media to be moving towards equality so soon. why cant a mainstream movie be made with LSBT ppl not funny but just normal folks going thru pain and car problems and constipation like normal ppl do? anyway, a big hello to you. stay cool!
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I was talking to a co-worker whose male boss is gay. I mentioned to the co-worker that I had met his boss's boyfriend over the weekend. He immediately wanted to know who did I think was the more "feminine" of the two.
In the case of this couple, it was my co-worker's boss.
But I'm bothered by this notion that in homosexual couples, one is suppose to be more masculine and the other is suppose to be more feminine apparently. I don't understand why both parters can't be equally feminine or masculine.
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It just seemed to me at the time, and to a certain degree still, that it was an attempt by a heterosexual to make a gay couple as much like a heterosexual couple as he could by assigning one the more feminine role and the other the more masculine role. And in some ways that seemed wrong, buy I really can't explain why it seemed wrong.
At the same time I can see why he'd do that. It seems human nature to try to equate something we don't really understand to something that we do understand.
OTOH a fictinal gay coule (Willow and Tara on Buffy the Vampire Slayer) didn't seem to have as much of a distinctive difference that I could tell. But maybe I was too wrapped up in the surrounding storylines to see the difference.
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new to the blogging scene as u mite be able to tell from my journal.
happened to stumble across ur journal because i used ayesha as a searchword. was just folling around. that's my wife's name.
personally speaking, LSBT are too damn stereotyped in mainstream media to be moving towards equality so soon.
why cant a mainstream movie be made with LSBT ppl not funny but just normal folks going thru pain and car problems and constipation like normal ppl do?
anyway, a big hello to you. stay cool!
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