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[azurepalesky]

This weekend I went to Cajun Festival in Simi Valley, drove up to Solvang to see my friend Amanda from school, went to Salzer's in Ventura, went a nice BBBQ with the lady friends, tried to drink a bottle of cold draft Sake in the shower and only managed to take three sips. At least it smelled like rubbing alcohol, which brings up (not so) old

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[ravendream]

Well, in all fairness, it seems quite possible to me to be bisexual but leaning toward one gender. I personally go by the Kinsey scale though.
It's like, I identify as bisexual, but generally date boys. I've had a couple girlfriends and a fling or two, and am definitely open to another relationship with a girl, but I mostly find myself more to men.

Though I always find it a little off to say that you're bisexual when you've never been with someone of the same gender. Attraction in theory is different from attraction in practice.

[azurepalesky]

I'm not arguing against people who are bi and have been with/are genuinely attracted to both sexes. I'm just saying those who do it because "they don't abide by what our society has told us to be" is complete and utter bullshit.

So I'd guess you're a 2 then? ;)

And I'm curious about your definitions of attraction then... are you saying you could feel yourself wanting to have sex with someone of the same sex but never do it because... why? The opportunity never came? But why did the opportunity never come with one sex and always the other? I find this stuff very fascinating and love getting other people's views.

[ravendream]

I agree that there's a definite group that just wants to be "different." I've known a few people that I'm sure think that way.

And I don't know if it's as low as two, but definitely more toward heterosexual.

As for me personally, I have been open to having sex with the same gender, but never gone for it just due to my personal beliefs regarding sex. Spider is the only person I have ever had sex with, but I've fooled around with women before. I've mostly abstained from going all the way - I can't say for sure because it's something that can't be known, but it's probably just sheer dumb luck that my only real sexual relationship was heterosexual.

[azurepalesky]

But on the Kinsey scale 3 is feeling equally homo and heterosexual... so if you're not then the highest you could be is 2.

I wouldn't think it's sheer dumb luck that it was with a male since it seems (at least since I've known you) that all your relationships were with males? Though I'm sure it is easier to find hetero males than homosexual females.

[bus3xcorps]

Kinsey scale is boo. I think there's a wider continuum in combination with innumerable other variables. Sexuality cannot be described as 1-6, at least to me. 6 levels isn't enough to describe, but enough to give a basic insight to human sexuality.