Forgotten Dialects of the Heart

[b_hallward]

I have discovered one of my most reliable kinks: characters who share a private language, who instead of falling back on "I love yous" and conventional gestures, build their own signs and signifiers, who find in pressing their foreheads together, or an insult, or in saving each other in wildly dangerous ways a language that's a better suited to the

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[puckling]

emotions that are vast and strange and ultimately unconveyable.

Epic and fucked up love is totally the best.

[b_hallward]

It is! What's not to like about the sort of love that leads you to make crossroad deals or run into burning buildings or commit causal murder.

[puckling]

I KNOW. *beams*

[bewarethesmirk]

I share this kink. In a big way.

[b_hallward]

When I figured this out it explained *so much*. And with this sort of pairing you get passion without sentimentality, feeling without the oppressive need to articulate.

I mean Merlin goes out and kills people for love of Arthur. That's my kind of declaration.

[samescenes]

or an insult, or in saving each other in wildly dangerous ways

Because that's not Arthur & Merlin. At all...

But that's why I love them.

[b_hallward]

Nope. Not at all. They'd much rather sit down and talk to each other about their feelings. *g*

[mossylawn]

Dorian, the like-mindedness is getting slightly creepy, stop it XD oh well, don't.
I have discovered one of my most reliable kinks: characters who share a private language, who instead of falling back on "I love yous" and conventional gestures, build their own signs and signifiers
I don't think I could agree with this more than I already do. I'm not really a fan of 'I love yours' as it is, and I personally never have dropped the L bomb, but it doesn't mean I haven't loved.
Words usually tend to try and mean something more than they do and Love is a word that whored itself out if you pardon my French.
It's the little gestures that brim over with meaning, making it just as essential and natural as breathing.

[b_hallward]

the like-mindedness is getting slightly creepy

All have to say is this: great minds.

Love is a word that whored itself out

It's not quite like "awful" or "terrible," words whose meaning has been eroded by careless use; but it is this cultural unit of meaning, particularly "I love you," to which is attached very definite views on what it means to love someone. And the private language of gesture is a way of opting out of these pre-fab cultural conceptualizations.

[lady_ganesh]

Oh, yes.

[b_hallward]

It's just practically bulletproof.

[lady_ganesh]

I really don't want to live in a world where "I'll kill you myself" doesn't mean "I love you."

[b_hallward]

*nodsnods* It would be a veritable hell.