feeling "stuck" in my relationship

[babooshka_01]

I don't know if I am even in a relationship anymore....it's not that we have broken up, it's just gotten to the point of being together more as roommates rather than lovers. Especially the lovers part...there is none, only three times since Jan 1st

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[dantree]

Spring and Summer are here, a time for growth and renewal, my advice is to pick a day of the week that you can both go on a date, ema and I usually go out on a walk on Wednesday nights, and we do this crazy thing, we talk and talk and talk. If we go out to eat, we talk.

I think its sort of normal unfortunately for the physical things to fade a bit, we cant get enough of one another when we first get together, but then eventually, as our hormones settle down its not the only thing we want to do.

I think asking in the middle of makeouts "should we keep going?" makes it sort of awkward maybe? You never did that before I am sure, it just led where it led. I personally find it odd, as a guy, no matter what time it is, or how early I have to work, if there is lovin' offered, I am there.

The main thing is really communication, you HAVE to talk, even over and over again about the same problems if you want things to work.

Us menfolk are stubborn, forgetful and stupid, we need reminding sometimes.

[babooshka_01]

Thanks for the advice, I went to a hotel room last night to kind of "clean my head out" but it didn't work so well, I fell asleep instead (damn sleep member beds!).
But as of today, things are good between us.

I think I will just have to take this relationship one day at a time, which is kind of bad in a way because that means there is no consitancy. Which can be very stressful.

but like you said, spring and summer are a time of renewal, maybe our relationship will be renewed, or maybe my choice on whether or not I am truly happy in this relationship will be renewed.

All I can do is try.