One of the weird things about being an adult is that we all, much as we might complain that our lives are boring and we don't do anything, have these routines of things we do and people we see and places we go. It's like (to me anyway) everyone has this circle around them that's kind of their lives, and if you're asking them to do something, it's sort of invading their circle... This is maybe just me though, and I'm pretty certain I could use an adult social skills class way more than you. But even when it's something you know they'd enjoy, and you know how much you'd like it if they asked you, it's just hard.
I feel like the difficulty in your life though is more that all the rest of us could use an adult social skills class. As these new things every week kind of demonstrate, you've been really good lately about putting yourself out there.
From my conversations with others, I'm pretty sure that everyone I know feels to some degree like they're not up to the task of being social adults. I think the problem is that we all feel what you describe: that it's an invasion of privacy to reach out to someone who is outside of your social circle. Well, that and a fear of rejection/looking silly or desperate/whatever. It's funny how, even when you know rationally how silly you're being, it somehow doesn't make you any more inclined to change your behavior...
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One of the weird things about being an adult is that we all, much as we might complain that our lives are boring and we don't do anything, have these routines of things we do and people we see and places we go. It's like (to me anyway) everyone has this circle around them that's kind of their lives, and if you're asking them to do something, it's sort of invading their circle... This is maybe just me though, and I'm pretty certain I could use an adult social skills class way more than you. But even when it's something you know they'd enjoy, and you know how much you'd like it if they asked you, it's just hard.
I feel like the difficulty in your life though is more that all the rest of us could use an adult social skills class. As these new things every week kind of demonstrate, you've been really good lately about putting yourself out there.
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