There is a lot running through my mind right now... I'll probably be making a few filtered posts over the next few days if time permits. Which it probably won't, so in that case sometime next week
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False analogy I'd say. Sexual promiscuity is a choice, whereas skin colour isn't. Unless you're Michael Jackson.
That being said, I agree with the sentiment that the amount of sex one has or the number of people one sleeps with is irrelevant to personal worth. I'm more a believer in the reclamation of words than in making them taboo, though. If anything the taboo gives the word or phrase even more power when actually used, whereas taking an attitude of "Yes, that's me. Your point is...?" effectively neutralises the slur.
Admittedly that's probably relatively easy for me to say from this side of the gender divide, and tougher to pull off in reality.
i agree with you totally, even a little bit with the last analogy, although i agree that sexual promiscuity IS a choice, and your ethnicity ISN'T, they are both terms that are used to stifle, belittle, and opress minority groups who could otherwise have great power in this world.
women who draw power from their sexuality scare the SHIT out of those in power, so it's easy to see why men want to humiliate and devalue women in charge of their own bodies. and i can see why women use the term- it is so, so vicious. but i just want to sit these girls down and have them see how damaging it is to each other, and how by hurting ourselves this way, we are doing the patriarchy's job for them!!
What if they sleep with a good friend's boyfriend just because they wanted to feel wanted and wanted to have sex, regardless of who it would hurt? Then can you call them a slut? (This never happened to me, I'm just asking what you think)
in the past, my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend has come on to him when he was with me (even though she ALSO had a boyfriend at the time). he politely rejected her advances, and she still continued to make little off-colour comments every so often.
maybe she was unhappy in her relationship and was trying to grab on to whatever she may have had with my boyfriend in the past, but it's still no excuse.
My $.02, the chicks that are out and about bitching about all the 'sluts' are the ones that are simply jealous theyre not the ones getting attention... Id bet most of them if given the chance, would become that very thing theyve been talking shit about...
Come on people. Please stop the abuse of the word "slut". It's totally embarrassing, small-minded and oppressing. Let's eradicate it from our societal vocabulary permanently and stop thinking we have the right to label someone because of their sex life. Okay? Okay.
AMEN!
Then again, I'm biased. I can't even count how many times I've been called a slut. pshaw, whatev. Bitches are just jealous because guys aren't fucking them. =P
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That being said, I agree with the sentiment that the amount of sex one has or the number of people one sleeps with is irrelevant to personal worth. I'm more a believer in the reclamation of words than in making them taboo, though. If anything the taboo gives the word or phrase even more power when actually used, whereas taking an attitude of "Yes, that's me. Your point is...?" effectively neutralises the slur.
Admittedly that's probably relatively easy for me to say from this side of the gender divide, and tougher to pull off in reality.
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women who draw power from their sexuality scare the SHIT out of those in power, so it's easy to see why men want to humiliate and devalue women in charge of their own bodies. and i can see why women use the term- it is so, so vicious. but i just want to sit these girls down and have them see how damaging it is to each other, and how by hurting ourselves this way, we are doing the patriarchy's job for them!!
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in the past, my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend has come on to him when he was with me (even though she ALSO had a boyfriend at the time). he politely rejected her advances, and she still continued to make little off-colour comments every so often.
maybe she was unhappy in her relationship and was trying to grab on to whatever she may have had with my boyfriend in the past, but it's still no excuse.
it may not be "slutty" but it sure is sleazy.
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Just someone who should DIEEEEEE (#*@&%(*&@#$*(#( RAAAHHH!!&@#)%*(&@#)9
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AMEN!
Then again, I'm biased.
I can't even count how many times I've been called a slut.
pshaw, whatev. Bitches are just jealous because guys aren't fucking them. =P
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