a parents guide to screwing up
i see allot of guys i know, at work or thru IPM becoming fathers. some appear to handle it well others have found my road to divorce. i missed out on most of rayne's early years trying to work over time or chasing old childhood fantasies of racing cars and playing in bands. rayne is going on 12 now. her voice is load and proud. i've spent the last 9 years helping her to have the courage to stand up for what she believes in only to find her mom has spent that time trying to knock her down.
i remember changing diapers and feeding times more than races and shows. first trips to the zoo, photos at the mall, and just getting out of the hospital in time for halloween. those are real treasures. techs at work going from bowling to softball then to the bar instead of home to that new baby girl. others complaining about paying child support when they passed on the chance to support their boy the first time.
kids don't need instructions when they enter this world they only want one thing. parents just spend to much time screwing it up to realize this. i just would like to tell them what i missed the first time out. stay home a bit more, read a story, sing a song, show some love, and remember your in it together.