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Whatever you do, don't allow your parents to take a high-horse and manipulate you out of guilt. If you hear anything that sounds or feels like "I told you so" - then they are not operating out of love, but out of self-serving motives. Grandparents can be seduced by nesting instincts. It is also hard for them to love you as a person, they will always want to treat you as a daughter, solve your issues for you.
I saw the same thing happen in an extreme way in my family to my mother and brother (mom had my brother at 17, was a single mother).
Ultimately you end up with a frustrated child with no clear authority... and in my brothers case, two suicide attempts and years of drug abuse in his teens/early 20's (he is absolutly fine now though, he got engaged a few days ago!).
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Whatever you do, don't allow your parents to take a high-horse and manipulate you out of guilt. If you hear anything that sounds or feels like "I told you so" - then they are not operating out of love, but out of self-serving motives. Grandparents can be seduced by nesting instincts. It is also hard for them to love you as a person, they will always want to treat you as a daughter, solve your issues for you.
I saw the same thing happen in an extreme way in my family to my mother and brother (mom had my brother at 17, was a single mother).
Ultimately you end up with a frustrated child with no clear authority... and in my brothers case, two suicide attempts and years of drug abuse in his teens/early 20's (he is absolutly fine now though, he got engaged a few days ago!).
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