LJ Idol Season 11 Week 11 Wild Goose Chase

[banana_galaxy]

It wasn’t until my son was diagnosed as autistic that I got myself evaluated for autism. In 2017, I learned exactly why I was socially different from my neurotypical peers. The signs were there much earlier, of course

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[roina_arwen]

I feel for you. Adolescence is hard enough without adding other stressors; my friend has a “flirting fish” that used to be used at gatherings; if you were attracted to someone (or they to you) one or the other would grab up the flirting fish (it’s a soft pillow shaped like a fish) and bop you with it, lol.

[banana_galaxy]

LOL. I think if I'd encountered a flirting fish, it would've led to even more embarrassment for me.

[static_abyss]

I agree that adolescence is such a weird and difficult time, and then to add anything else would obviously make it even harder. Ugh, Glenn and his friends.

[banana_galaxy]

Glenn was a dick. As were his friends. I kind of wish I'd seen that sooner and just lost interest.

[rayaso]

I'm saddened that things haven't been easier in romance. It's hard enough for everyone to navigate.

[banana_galaxy]

Yeah. Well, live and learn. Better for me to be single now than accept poor treatment for the sake of saying I have someone. At least I should be better at recognising the things I don't want to accept any more.

[bleodswean]

Dating is hard no matter what, but dealing with adolescence and the spectrum is excruciating. Friendship to love is a great way to get to the good stuff!

[banana_galaxy]

Oh man, that's making me realise I'm going to have to help my autistic son navigate relationships in a few years. Well at least I have some experience that I can relate to him with.

[murielle]

The average sixteen year old boy, unless he is very special and has superb parents, is just not equipped to handle a situation like that and sadly, what happened to you (and worse) seems to be the best a lot of guys can come up with.

It's heartbreaking that you had to go through this, that any young girl would have to, especially with your added challenges. However, everything I have ever read on love notes that love that grows from friendship is the most rewarding and lasting.

[banana_galaxy]

Yeah, it sucks. And growing up with this sort of thing is why I thought it was ridiculous that my husband was of the attitude that all women could get sexual interest any time they wanted. Not me.

Hopefully one day I'll become friends with someone I can actually be with long-term, and who also wants to be with me. Because whilst I've had those sorts of friendships, they've been people I couldn't live with or stay with for various reasons.