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It's been a lot better.
Jonathan and I started meeting with Michele and Jason for some premarital counseling because we were fighting so much, and it's calmed down significantly since then. The thing is that we're not fighting because we're wrong for each other, we're fighting because we can't communicate with each other.
I really do want to marry him. I a question on tumblr the other day on a christian tumblr, some girl was like 'hey so what do i do if i'm interested in this guy and he's a christ following but recently he's started living a really worldly lifestyle and has been drinking a lot?' and the response was "here's a question in response: do you think that that is God's best for you?"
No, it isn't.
Jonathan is God's best for me. He's intelligent, thoughtful, patient, understanding, has an almost annoying amount of integrity, and he loves me with Jesus' love. He doesn't play games with me, he doesn't lie to me, and though we fight, we always make up. He's a strong, compassionate, firm leader, which is all I wanted in a man: someone I can lead with.
I'm really happy.
Maryn is living at my apartment this week though and she has this guy that she's been kinda seeing since last spring but not really. She did the thing where she mentioned his name in conversation like three times so I decided to just be nice and ask her about it since she obviously was dying to tell me.
"Yeah so is that a thing now?"
"Ohhh yeah."
"Like its official?"
"It's not on like, facebook, but I bet it probably will be soon, and when it does, it's going to be soo great."
"Cool, so he's your boyfriend?"
"I don't like using that term, but like, yeah, we're dating."
"But he's like, on the same page that you're his girlfriend."
"Well we haven't talked about that yet, but we really obviously like each other and we go on dates, like, we're dating."
"Okay but you haven't talked about being in an actual exclusive relationship at all?"
"Well no, but it's really obvious. And he's shy, so that's probably why."
I was like OH MY NO
So then I was like "Well I think you should talk to him about it, I mean, you're really excited about it and it's not really fair to you for him to leave you hanging like that. I just don't want to see you get hurt, you know, if he has a reason why he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend yet. I've been there, and it sucks, I'm just looking out for you."
"Yeah no, it's so obvious, like I told him that I really like him and it's his last semester and he said he would wait for me, and like, I'm all over him and we hang out and text all the time, he's sooo amazing."
But like, homeboy goes to school in Minnesota so she isn't gonna see him for like three months, so I'm thinking that maybe he doesn't want to date her because of the distance or something. And she said his last day at home was Saturday and they spent the day together, so I was like okay, if he didn't talk to you about being in a relationship on THE LAST DAY HE'S GONNA SEE YOU, something is off. Or maybe he will ask her to be official this week, I have no idea. Either way, she needs to get it together. Plus her relationship is probably gonna crash and burn anyway because she really apparently hasn't had any personal growth over the summer, she's gonna be in for a real nice surprise if she tries to date someone. But like, we ALL KNOW that I have had my fair share of 'oh i have this thing with this guy and he likes me yay OH WAIT just kidding we were apparently never together let me go cry for four months." But she sees my like, reluctance as me just not wanting her to have a boyfriend and she gets all defensive and I'm like THIS IS NOT WHAT IT IS, if he was a good Godly guy who was being super intentional with her, I would be like awesome, I'm happy for you. But this just strikes me as shady, soo.
I don't know, we'll see.
I'm ready for normal life to start again.
Jonathan and I started meeting with Michele and Jason for some premarital counseling because we were fighting so much, and it's calmed down significantly since then. The thing is that we're not fighting because we're wrong for each other, we're fighting because we can't communicate with each other.
I really do want to marry him. I a question on tumblr the other day on a christian tumblr, some girl was like 'hey so what do i do if i'm interested in this guy and he's a christ following but recently he's started living a really worldly lifestyle and has been drinking a lot?' and the response was "here's a question in response: do you think that that is God's best for you?"
No, it isn't.
Jonathan is God's best for me. He's intelligent, thoughtful, patient, understanding, has an almost annoying amount of integrity, and he loves me with Jesus' love. He doesn't play games with me, he doesn't lie to me, and though we fight, we always make up. He's a strong, compassionate, firm leader, which is all I wanted in a man: someone I can lead with.
I'm really happy.
Maryn is living at my apartment this week though and she has this guy that she's been kinda seeing since last spring but not really. She did the thing where she mentioned his name in conversation like three times so I decided to just be nice and ask her about it since she obviously was dying to tell me.
"Yeah so is that a thing now?"
"Ohhh yeah."
"Like its official?"
"It's not on like, facebook, but I bet it probably will be soon, and when it does, it's going to be soo great."
"Cool, so he's your boyfriend?"
"I don't like using that term, but like, yeah, we're dating."
"But he's like, on the same page that you're his girlfriend."
"Well we haven't talked about that yet, but we really obviously like each other and we go on dates, like, we're dating."
"Okay but you haven't talked about being in an actual exclusive relationship at all?"
"Well no, but it's really obvious. And he's shy, so that's probably why."
I was like OH MY NO
So then I was like "Well I think you should talk to him about it, I mean, you're really excited about it and it's not really fair to you for him to leave you hanging like that. I just don't want to see you get hurt, you know, if he has a reason why he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend yet. I've been there, and it sucks, I'm just looking out for you."
"Yeah no, it's so obvious, like I told him that I really like him and it's his last semester and he said he would wait for me, and like, I'm all over him and we hang out and text all the time, he's sooo amazing."
But like, homeboy goes to school in Minnesota so she isn't gonna see him for like three months, so I'm thinking that maybe he doesn't want to date her because of the distance or something. And she said his last day at home was Saturday and they spent the day together, so I was like okay, if he didn't talk to you about being in a relationship on THE LAST DAY HE'S GONNA SEE YOU, something is off. Or maybe he will ask her to be official this week, I have no idea. Either way, she needs to get it together. Plus her relationship is probably gonna crash and burn anyway because she really apparently hasn't had any personal growth over the summer, she's gonna be in for a real nice surprise if she tries to date someone. But like, we ALL KNOW that I have had my fair share of 'oh i have this thing with this guy and he likes me yay OH WAIT just kidding we were apparently never together let me go cry for four months." But she sees my like, reluctance as me just not wanting her to have a boyfriend and she gets all defensive and I'm like THIS IS NOT WHAT IT IS, if he was a good Godly guy who was being super intentional with her, I would be like awesome, I'm happy for you. But this just strikes me as shady, soo.
I don't know, we'll see.
I'm ready for normal life to start again.