how do you switch off the fear and anger

[barala]

After a drought of almost six years of human contact from the opposite sex, I find myself embracing the possibility of just that

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Switching anger off

[purpledardasit]

for me was in my military service, when I had the most awful chief officer working above me. One day I just said to myself: "you know you are to blame too, so why don't you just be in your best behavior and send guilt on it's way"? It kinda worked. I felt better. I was less bitter.
Your situation is different, however. Abusers weren't meant for forgiveness or for ease on them. If you feel vengeance is wrong, keep the distance, if you can't, 'kindly' remind him of what he did to you. Don't let his hoar head go to grave in peace, like Joseph Heller wrote. Maybe that will cleanse some of the anger.

Re: Switching anger off

[barala]

I got through this weekend despite my intentions to the contrary. But for the grace of God i managed to keep my brain in tact. May be this was a wake up call telling me that I am all that i experience and that times past can still rear their ugly heads. I need to reclaim what was mine and accept it. Only in that way can I truly succeed and rise above what i thought was resolved long ago.