cat keeps walking all over and sitting on the laptop, yet when i put the laptop off to the side, he's completely uninterested in sitting on my lap or the laptop
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It should be commonplace! There's no reason this should stand out as extraordinary, that this guy should be anything other than average. Yet here we are. =/
I once sent a boy away from my house because he tried to insist I give him oral sex. (He had a huge erection and had to ride his bicycle home, lol!) I remember being proud of myself for being brave enough to send him away... but yeah, how many girls are not brave enough or come across a guy not quite nice enough, or whatever? :( I'm glad the guy you were with was a good one.
that was very brave of you! good for you. how old were you?
i have always been pretty submissive about sex stuff because it doesn't really come naturally to me; i'm not sure what i'm supposed to be doing or feeling, what would be the 'normal' response to things. it's not always that i don't want to, because sometimes i want to the make the other person feel good, you know? it's often more that i don't really know how to, i guess? so mostly i just try to be accommodating.
i mean, obviously i read enough fic to get it, but it's different when you're trying to implement it yourself. because nothing feels like the right thing. i don't know how to explain it. =/
I think I was 15. And I knew he didn't actually like me. He was a creep but he was younger than me so it was a bit weird. idk.
Anyway.
I'm not asexual but I hate the way sex is considered this massively important thing. Like your relationship must suck if you're not having lots of sex and if you don't feel like sex ever there's something wrong with you. What bollocks.
And there's a fine line between being accommodating and being a... idk, a pushover or a doormat. I think it can be great to consent to sex just to please your partner, assuming they know that and it's a good relationship.
Just rambling and half talking to myself here.
I know what you mean by nothing feels like the right thing though. I don't think you're too much of a minority with that.
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also *hugs*. life is discovery.
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Life is funny. Sex is weird.
I once sent a boy away from my house because he tried to insist I give him oral sex. (He had a huge erection and had to ride his bicycle home, lol!) I remember being proud of myself for being brave enough to send him away... but yeah, how many girls are not brave enough or come across a guy not quite nice enough, or whatever? :( I'm glad the guy you were with was a good one.
I'm sorry you feel lonely. Love you. ♡ ♡ ♡
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i have always been pretty submissive about sex stuff because it doesn't really come naturally to me; i'm not sure what i'm supposed to be doing or feeling, what would be the 'normal' response to things. it's not always that i don't want to, because sometimes i want to the make the other person feel good, you know? it's often more that i don't really know how to, i guess? so mostly i just try to be accommodating.
i mean, obviously i read enough fic to get it, but it's different when you're trying to implement it yourself. because nothing feels like the right thing. i don't know how to explain it. =/
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Anyway.
I'm not asexual but I hate the way sex is considered this massively important thing. Like your relationship must suck if you're not having lots of sex and if you don't feel like sex ever there's something wrong with you. What bollocks.
And there's a fine line between being accommodating and being a... idk, a pushover or a doormat. I think it can be great to consent to sex just to please your partner, assuming they know that and it's a good relationship.
Just rambling and half talking to myself here.
I know what you mean by nothing feels like the right thing though. I don't think you're too much of a minority with that.
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i'm so happy right now that you're a part of my life. i ♥ you so much.
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