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[barnys2ndchance]

Well the pleasantry has worn off, now I'm just confused.

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Explanation of my obscure post.

[barnys2ndchance]

Basically, I am at a loss of what do to. Three weeks ago I called her one night and she said she was busy. She called me back when I was busy. I called back again later and when she picked up she was crying. I asked her what was wrong. She said she couldn't talk to me then, so I said goodbye and she hung up. The next morning I E-mailed her saying that I would wait for her to call me whe was ready and I asked her if she was alright and that she could talk to me if she wanted to. I got a short E-mail saying she was fine and that she would tell me about it later. After that I could not reach her on the phone. My insticts told me I shold give her some space so I didn't call her for a week. A second week. A third week. I called her yesterday. No answer. I am at a loss. My first thoughts were that some family member had died, but now I don't know. I guess I'll wait some more. Time heals all wounds. I just hope she isn't going to dissapear again.

Re: Explanation of my obscure post.

[blankphoto]

Ok Arpod you are going about this ALL wrong. Normally when a girl withdraws from you its because she wants to be chased. Women like to be pursued, it make them feel wanted and loved.

You may have runied you chances, but if you want to fix this situation there is only one thing you can do. BE THE SENSITIVE DOLT THAT I KNOW YOU ARE, because i am one to. You need to tell her that you've been stupid, and now know you have been stupid. Unless she was already headed away from you this will have little effect on the situation, other that prolonging it. BUT, if you really want to stay in the relationship this is about your only way to do it.

The other would be "I WAS ABDUCTED BY KLIGONS AND SODOMIZED FOR THREE WEEKS.... and called you as soon as I got back to earth, I swear."

But remember a woman wants to be chaced UNLESS she just isnt interested.

Re: Explanation of my obscure post.

[barnys2ndchance]

Ok, but what to do if I can't reach her. I'm not going to call her 20 times a day because that would be creepy. I can't just show up at her door in all hours of the night because that would be REALLY creepy. I don't know if it is something I did or not, but somehow I'm sure it is.

Re: Explanation of my obscure post. The i'm sorry calling plan.

[barnys2ndchance]

Call at least 3 times a day untill you get her but only leave msgs 1 of those per day. This way you are more likely to get her without seeming to desperate or "creepy" as you put it.

[faeriedreamz]

I think you should still try to call a few times... i don't know how often, I wish i had met her, but since I haven't, I can't tell. It will be ok. I think that as long as you let her know that you care, and that you want to be there for her. Does that mean calling 20 times? I dont know. Maybe it only means calling once every 2 or 3 days.

I hope it works out for you, one way or another... If you want/need to talk, you know i will.

[loserchick85]

just remember that there is a fine line between pursuing and stalking. calling like 50 times a day and showing up at her place at odd hours during the day/night will make her call the police on you, or just really really hate you. but yeah, do what sharah says because she usually knows what she is talking about.

My two rupees

[kaworuchaos]

Like Sharah said, it's unfortanate we never met her. But being the highly experienced guy with girls that I am... ;o) But anyways, here's what I'll suggest since I think I actually do know something about femininity

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[me_im_a_thief]

Thanks caleb, you just ruined Arpad's life.

Just kidding, It was all very good advice. I'm sure he appreciates it.