Gay Asian guys talk about difficulties in dating and perception.

[baskinrobbins31]

このビデオは、オーストラリアのビデオだけど、世界のどこでも同じだと思う。特に白人社会のアメリカとか。
これってやっぱ本当なんだろうなぁ…なんかアメリカに住みたいとか思うの考えなおそうかな。なんて気持ちになりました。

Comments

[noholzba]

Hmmm...yeah, it's definitely a problem. But I don't think it's so bad anymore? At least, not as bad as it was for these men.

Actually, I find this problem in Japan....I like Japanese guys, but most guys either like 1) only other Japanese guys, or 2) white guys... Not very many like non-Japanese Asians... =(

[scoutlove3]

Yea I agree, In Japan even the guys who say they like "Foreigners" really only like white guys. Or they only date Japanese guys. Even though now it's much easier to find someone who doesn't really mind race...it's still sort of a problem.

I dunno, I guess I should feel lucky. Black guys are seen as "cool" nowadays in japoan so I guess I should count my blessings?

[noholzba]

Hmm...is that a blessing, really? In my time here, it seems to me that Japanese youth culture is more interested in the "hip-hop" image and its trappings, rather than blacks themselves (although some might argue that many Japanese don't bother to distinguish between the two).

Thus, you'll see tons and tons of African guys (I want to say Nigerian, but how would I know?) decked out in the latest "hip-hop" threads, trying to promote clubs and shops. I would imagine these men had nothing to do with hip-hop before coming to Japan, but are banking on their skin color and a change of clothes to get them in with Japanese consumers...

[scoutlove3]

YES I TOTALLY AGREE!!! i was being sarcastic about the blessing thing. And I find it quite funny about the hip hop phase thing. I can't tell you how many people at Sapporo University wave to me and smile, most likely simply because I am the only black person on campus, and probably the first live black person they have seen up close.

As for the African guys! I LOATHE THEM! Well the ones here in Sapporo aren't so bad, we just nod to eachother and go our seperate ways. But in Tokyom (GRRRRR) they freaking attack me! It's like "Oh your black too, you should come buy shit at our store!"and they get really angry when I walk away.

And your probably right about the relying on their skin color. Get in where you fit in I guess.

[chaddo186]

Yeah, I think this is still a problem, but maybe it's changing. My ex-bf is an adorable korean-american guy with a great personality, but here in the US, there are few that want to even try to date him. Ironically, he doesn't like asian guys either.

But then again, I've seen a lot of other asian guys in bigger cities that are able to find asian and non-asian guys that want to date them.

Also, I don't like that whole "rice queen" or "sticky rice" label. People would probably say I'm a rice queen because I've dated a lot of asian guys, but really that's just what I'm attracted to. If I date an asian guy, it's not just because he's asian. That is just part of my physical attraction to him. Oh, and not all "rice queen" type guys are old!!! lol I'm only 21 after all.