Where did all the confidence go?
What has happened to me? I was starting to really feel good about myself and then the last week or so I have lost ALL of my confidence and I don't know how to get it back. I have spent months and months building it up and now I feel like I am back where I was a year ago.
When I started transitioning I kinda removed myself from the world. I had a ton ( Read more... )
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External approval. We all need it, St. Gulik knows that I do. Humans are social animals, after all. The thing is, we can't depend solely on the approval of others; doing that gets a person in some pretty sticky situations.
Yes, I've heard it ten thousand times, and I'm sure that you have, too: "Before anyone else can love you, you've got to love yourself." Trite, yes, but sage advice, nonetheless. You've got to look into yourself and find the reasons to be able to look into the mirror, and say to the reflectionI like you. You may be a thoroughgoing moron every other Tuesday, but dammit, I like you!
And unless your name is John Lesko, you can rest assured that the reasons are there, even if a bit hard to find sometimes.
My thoughts are with you.
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I know exactly how you feel. I've always lived my life operating under the assumption that with each extra person who liked me, the happier I'd be. But as more and more people liked me, I got to realizing, they didn't really like me for who I was - only what I had to offer them (I'm such a super-duper killer friend). It may have given me a temporary increase in self-confidence, but eventually I figured I had to be ok with myself before I'd be ok with being with anyone else (and not even just romantically, even just platonically).
Keep your head up girl!
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