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[beartalon]

The title of this entry is a comment from fogbear on a post I made elsewhere talking about my wedding anniversary with my late husband Jason on June 8.

I dreaded that day coming. It's the last of the "special firsts" before the anniversary of Jason's death. All of last week was spent in some state of dread. I slept a lot, because that's what stress makes

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[putzmeisterbear]

I'm very glad our chat helped. Big hugs.

[beartalon]

It made me smile the entire time on the drive until I got close to home. Thanks for being "present" with me. Big warm hugs.

[labeartorycub]

HUGE HUGS, Paul. I'm supporting you and your decisions from my corner of the world.

[beartalon]

Thank you, and HUGS. After a good talk with a friend today, I think I'm ready to tackle the rest of the month.

[maxauburn]

I think choosing health over physical aspects of your appearance is a wise choice.

I know several people who've had bariatric surgery, lost 100 to 200 lbs, and went off their diabetes and hypertension medications.
They feel much better and are way healthier.

You may have to get a tummy tuck after you lose the weight.

I hope you can feel better. I know it's rough.
I know how much it hurts. I lost a lot of who I am when George died. That was a big part of me.
I still feel like I'm a jigsaw puzzle with some pieces missing, and it's been over 15 years.

But it does get better with time. You've only had a year. The first year is the worst, and is the hardest part to get through.

It gets better. Trust me.

I hope you have someone you can really talk to about this. I do. It helps. I'm also on antidepressants.

I know you'd tried to find a support group for those who've lost a mate. Have you had any success finding one?

Perhaps the undertaking of a new hobby or project might help? Or a pet?

I wish I could help you, somehow.

*MAJOR

[beartalon]

I have not yet found a support group for bereaved spouses. I will start attending one for general grief. My employee assistance program gave me a referral today to a counsellor, so I'm waiting for a call back with an appointment so I can talk to a professional.

I make jewelry, and I'm starting to work on some new pieces. I might not sell it. It might become more sculptural than a daily wearable. We'll see. I have at least one commission, a variant on an existing piece I've made, so that's a good way to get back into it.

Supporting me here is an excellent way to help, and you've already been doing that. Thank you. BIG HUGS.

[maxauburn]

"Supporting me here is an excellent way to help, and you've already been doing that. Thank you. BIG HUGS."

Not a problem. I will continue to do so.

*BIG HUGS*

[njbigbear]

Hugs and love ... I always look forward to your posts; even though we rarely chat or talk, these keep you in my thoughts, and that's a nice thing.

Our support for whatever decision you make (and to me you're making the right one) is always there.

[beartalon]

I know I'm remiss in contacting you two. Thank you for keeping up with me here. Hugs, Thank you and Love, and an email or call soon.